This is going well

By Anonymous - 25/04/2020 14:00

Today, my husband is so bored with speaking to me, he literally walked outside when I was mid-sentence during a conversation about how I need more attention in our relationship. We've only been married 3 months. FML
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If you’re telling him about your needs/ desires/expectations regarding your relationship and he just walks out, it sounds like he doesn’t really care about you or your relationship. But we don’t know the context of the conversation and your relationship. For example, if you’re constantly telling him the same thing over and over again, he might have just felt like he already knew what you were gonna say so he didn’t need to hear it again, and he left because he was tired of always having the same conversation or maybe he didn’t want the conversation to turn into a fight (if that’s what usually happens) Also, some people once they are married think « ok, we’re settled down now, we’re gonna be together for life, I don’t need to make any efforts anymore ». I don’t know if your husband is like that, but maybe he thinks that even if he doesn’t pay more attention to you, you won’t leave him or be too mad at him or anything, so why should he make efforts to give you more attention.

This could go either way depending on what you're talking about. If you're only talking about yourself all the time and not listening to anything he says in return and just got married so you could have a captive audience, then YDI.

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If you’re telling him about your needs/ desires/expectations regarding your relationship and he just walks out, it sounds like he doesn’t really care about you or your relationship. But we don’t know the context of the conversation and your relationship. For example, if you’re constantly telling him the same thing over and over again, he might have just felt like he already knew what you were gonna say so he didn’t need to hear it again, and he left because he was tired of always having the same conversation or maybe he didn’t want the conversation to turn into a fight (if that’s what usually happens) Also, some people once they are married think « ok, we’re settled down now, we’re gonna be together for life, I don’t need to make any efforts anymore ». I don’t know if your husband is like that, but maybe he thinks that even if he doesn’t pay more attention to you, you won’t leave him or be too mad at him or anything, so why should he make efforts to give you more attention.

You probably won't be married much longer. Thank you, ... next!

Wow I'd like to hear his side, because you sound like you want all kinds of attention.

I mean, she deserves more attention if he’s walking out on her mid sentence

Depends on how long the conversation was. If he left in the third hour of this conversation, she might have been given enough attention.

If she's drama queening all the time demanding his attention, then I would say yes he is obligated to leave the room, especially if she wants to rant and rave...

This could go either way depending on what you're talking about. If you're only talking about yourself all the time and not listening to anything he says in return and just got married so you could have a captive audience, then YDI.

You might need to consider seeing a couples counsellor/therapist, OP. Have you tried *asking* him about what's going on? Instead of submitting him to a lecture about the lack of attention, try getting his side of the story (if you haven't already asked/tried). Communication is a two way street, so it could help to give him the chance to have a voice.

Tell him you want a divorce! If he doesn't even respect you enough to listen to you, doesn't matter if you literally say it to him several times a day! NO matter what the circumstances if a man chooses not to respect you, get rid of him! He is useless to you! You can totally do better!

Does he see you trying to help yourself, or do you think it’s his responsibility?