By the dog won - 16/7/2020 14:01

In the cold

Today, after being tired of my husband acting like I’m invisible, giving more attention and affection to the dog than to me, and me going to spend a few nights at my sister’s house, he texted me, "You coming home to make dinner or what?" on the second day. It's now day 4 and he hasn’t said anything else since. FML
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By  jfigley  |  4

I wouldn't say divorce, but a solid foot to put him in the right place. Men can be selfish but we can still understand some boundaries when they are clearly marked again. If he still doesn't get it or moreover flat out doesn't care, then yea do whats best for you.

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  Hangryko  |  17

Boundaries aren't the issue here. It's decency, respect, appreciation, love - none of which this asshole has. It's not OP's or any woman's job to train men on how to be decent human beings. She should kick the selfish jerk out. Have common sense.

By  Isaac Shields  |  8

it's funny how so many people don't know what marriage is these days abs are so quick to be divorced if you think it's acceptable to abandon your marriage just because you want some attention you weren't ready for marriage and probably shouldn't be anyways after all the vows say in sickness and in health for better or for worse till death do you part so if you can't be with someone at their worst you don't deserve them at their best

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  Hangryko  |  17

People change over time; they don't lock in to staying as they are forever after saying "I do," for better or worse. Yes, both parties need to put in an effort to make it work but both still have to be committed to each other. What if that effort becomes only one way, or even detrimental to keep trying?

On that note, one shouldn't stay in a marriage if it becomes abusive and OP is obviously in an emotionally abusive one. OP has a right to be in a happy marriage with someone who always acknowledges her worth. Forgive me if I don't have much faith in her husband seeing the error of his ways, especially after a long time (as I infer from her post).

By  Matthew Irmen  |  11

I’m guessing that you left with no explanation, so asking about dinner was a way of asking for that explanation. I’m also guessing that you didn’t respond, so he is still waiting for your response. Everybody has those similarly unhappy friends that will say to dump him, but do you want to? It seems obvious that communication is a problem between the two of you, so start working on that