Not all Dad’s are the stereotypical over-protective sort. Give Dad the benefit of the doubt - Maybe he’s less afraid of your mom than he is realistic. You should at least eventually talk to Dad to understand his perspective but don’t make it a battle of wills. Here is what I would want my daughter to know: (1) Sex has consequences, some good and some potentially problematic. Be prepared that you not get pregnant and that you not catch an STD. Take charge of your birth control - Never ever trust the guy to pull out in time or rely on the rhythm method (days it supposed to be “safe” in your cycle). Most (but not all) STD’s can be cured or controlled, but an unwanted pregnancy can have “forever” consequences. (2) Sex can mean different things to different people. Often it leads to a stronger emotional attachment, but not always by both persons. To save yourself emotional pain, make sure that you care about your partner and they care about you before having sex. There is no guarantee in life, but this is important. (3) While **** always involves sex, real sex is rarely like **** other than the basics. Sex is part having the equipment, part instinct, but even more is a skill and attitude. The first time is seldom “great” but if you communicate with your partner honestly and without accusations you will both get better at pleasing each other. (4) Do not talk about sex with anyone you do not trust to be open with you. Our society has some inconsistent messaging on sex - It’s pushed in some segments of our society and condemned in others.

I'm sure your mom is going to train you to dominate the shit out of men. You'll probably have your pick from among a certain type.

that's too bad that fear is more for the boyfriend than you. and trust me you'll appreciate it in the long run

Kudos for being honest with your mom and not going behind her back. Believe me, it's a lot easier that way to have your parents on your side.