By Anonymous - 17/10/2020 23:02 - United States - Pittsburgh

Moving on

Today, I saw yet another dear friend from uni get married, living the good life in their new home. Here am I in my 30s, with no love life, and feeling like that's never going to be for me. FML
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By  lev  |  11

Maybe you like being alone? Maybe you only envy your friends because of "keeping up with the Joneses"?

If not, do something about it.

By  juggalo2  |  15

You have no love life? What are you doing about it? Are you practicing good self-care? Are you doing things and going places where you might interact with active and interesting men? How much energy are you devoting to meeting and dating potential partners?

By  Chazzster  |  21

OP I am confused if you are sad that you have no one else in your life or if it’s because you wanted someone to buy you a house and support you.

(1) If it’s the first (lonely) then first you have to do an honest self-assessment about why that’s the case. Then work on becoming the person you want to be. Then take part in activities and social situations that create a safe way to meet the kind of person you want to meet. Avoid appearing “desperate” or clingy - That drives people away. Also avoid the “meat markets” like bars or Tinder - that is really desperate. Finally just like you probably want to be valued for the person you are rather than your physical characteristics, look for that in others.

(2) If it’s mainly just that you wanted someone to buy you a house and keep you comfortable - In that case I have zero sympathy for you.

By  Win  |  9

Sometimes it takes longer to meet the person who complements your personality & lifestyle. It’s not easy to run into someone who connects with you at a deep level. Don’t lose hope. Good luck!