Today, I recently got into a relationship with a 15 year-old. I’m 17. All my friends are calling me a pedo. Am I the only one that doesn’t think the age gap is weird? FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, after confessing to my 16 year-old sister that I was only into guys younger than me, she said that was OK because she was attracted to guys in their late 40's and that an age gap was not that much of a big deal. FML
Today, my boyfriend broke up with me because he says, "There's too much of an age gap between us" and that it makes him "feel like a pedophile". He's only four months older than I am. FML
Today, I found out that my girlfriend’s friends secretly make fun of me. They call me “grandpa” and a “massive creep.” They’re in their 20s. My girlfriend is 22 and I’m 48. Apparently, dating a consenting legal adult is considered “creepy.” FML
Today, I had to slowly explain to my brother why his relationship with a just-turned 18 year-old would be inappropriate. According to him, they’ve been “dating” for two years now but “haven’t had sex or anything.” He’s 39. He got mad at me for calling him a pedophile and smashed my glass table. FML
Today, my friends were criticizing me, a 36 year-old man hitting on a 22 year-old I met at a bar. I brought up that she’s a consenting adult. One of them responded, “Dude, the year she was born, you were old enough to jerk off and your voice was dropping… isn’t that a turnoff for you?” FML
Today, I found out that the guy I've been crushing on for months is actually 15 years old. I'm 22. Not only is it gross, but it's also illegal. FML
Today, I found out that the 19-year-old I've been seeing is really 26, with two kids and a pregnant fiancée. I'm only 17. FML
Today, and after my divorce finalised, I ended up falling in love with a 28 year-old woman, meaning that she's 16 years younger than I am. I knew I might be judged for it but man, I was not prepared for the levels of abuse I’d receive from my family, and even strangers, who see us holding hands in public and feel the need to make cruel comments. FML
Today, while picking up my 14-year-old sister, a friend of hers asked if I was her mother. I'm only 17. FML
Today, the 18-now-19 year-old girl who originally lead me on, ended things, then made a show of our four year age difference to the people she knew is now happily dating a 27 year-old. Her parents approve. I’m now known as a creep and lost many friends over this, but she just gets to move on? FML
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cuz803 46
2 year difference isn't bad. Maybe wait till your older before you do sexual activity. Also, get some new friends. No friend is gonna call me a pedo and be associated with me.
maskedangel 11
That’s not a weird age gap
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maskedangel 11
That’s not a weird age gap
cuz803 46
2 year difference isn't bad. Maybe wait till your older before you do sexual activity. Also, get some new friends. No friend is gonna call me a pedo and be associated with me.
RichardPencil 32
I see you're from South Africa and can't think of anything but how weirdly you people say the word "weird." It's weird!
mskeptik 12
According to Elon Musk, calling someone "pedo guy" is not a big deal in South Africa and "is used to insult a person's appearance and demeanor, not accuse a person of acts of pedophilia". Still sucks to hear it, I suppose.
FluffythePink 24
As long as you don't break any laws it's fine. Girls tend to grow up a bit faster than boys so 15yo girls generally tend to find 15yo boys still a bit yuk. If you were 18+ it would be a bit icky but 17? Nah, you're good, as long as you remember that statutory rape laws are a thing... You might want to look into getting slightly more mature mates though.
Shzusuziq11 12
I would check the age of consent where you are. If you turn 18 you're an adult. If she's still 15, it could be a problem
Justkidding100 41
when you're both in highschool you don't mind but when you're out and she's not suddenly you care a lot more. spoiler alert: you're 17 it doesn't matter
Vesi 30
Um.. if your girlfriend has adult body parts, that is not pedophilia and you need to find better friends.
TeaTimeAbyss 22
Very much not how this works. The age difference makes it not pedophilia. Your comment should put you on a list.
Vesi 30
OK try this: go to google dot com Type in these words: Define Pedophilia Hit Enter and read the definition Then type in these words: Define Hebephilia Hit Enter and read the definition Yes, a 17 year old CAN be one or the other. IF OPs girlfriend does not fit into either category (noting the PHYSICAL appearances in the definitions) then OP is BY DEFINITION not a pedophile. Their ages have nothing whatsoever to do with what his friends are saying. So yes, that IS how this works.
Blimix 9
"Pedo" is the wrong word here, but at your partner's age, two years is a big enough difference to violate the creepiness formula. Take the older person's age, divide by two, and add seven years. Dating or making a move on someone younger than that can be seen as creepy. That doesn't necessarily make it wrong, especially if the younger person made the first move and you're both in similar life circumstances (e.g., whether you live with parents or on your own). But yeah, people are going to see 15 and 17 as creepy, where in a year, 16 and 18 will be more acceptable.
Brightside86 31
Meh so your like a senior in HS dating a junior. Seems fine to me but you may want to look into how flexible your states rules are on that. Would really suck if you ended up with a record because of the state and month you're in.