That's the worst dude. I hope you let her down softly.

Well she was on the heavy side...

Hopefully he remembered to bend his knees.

I think it was more of a dull thud.

heavy is a pretty much polite term though

Was that a pun?

just curious how big she is? I know plenty of people that are bigger and drive and ride motorcycles just fine.

83, maybe he had a smaller motorcycle

83, that's what I was thinking. I know someone who weighs well over 300 pounds and rides a bike so how huge was this girl that she was too heavy? Unless OP just has no idea how much weight a bike can hold...

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I know, eating can be a vicious cycle

It's also rude to crash a bike and hurt someone because you knowingly weren't handling it safely

OP isn't making a joke, if you put too much weight on a motorcycle it will break, he had no choice but to tell her no that's why he feels bad.

You're right, obesity is not a joke. That's why it's better that OP said no and made up some excuse as to why he can't take her so her and himself don't end up getting hurt.

Obviously not a joke. Ready a little more carefully next time.

Obersity is of course not a joke but most of the time it's the fault of the obese for eating too much and not being active enough. Of course I know that there are also other factors that can cause obesity but in most of the cases it's just an unhealthy diet and laziness. I hate when people protect fat guys from every form of criticism. You are also criticized when you say something stupid, why should you not be if you are harming yourself and there are so simple ways to prevent that.

We don't know how heavy Op is, so the girl might not have been super obese, just bigger.

But I hope Op was nice about it. I feel bad for the girl. However, sometimes it takes situations like this to make someone realize they might want to make some changes in their life. Having the guy you like say you are too heavy for their bike might be one of them.

I feel bad for the girl though. It has to suck.

How is it rude? Is being too fat and going to break him and his motorcycle not rude?

The truth is always preferable to lying in my opinion. There are 100 ways the truth would leak out if he lied to her and then it would be devastating.

Regardless, it is his and her own safety that comes into question in this matter. Saying yes could endanger their lives, especially on a busy street or a freeway.

3rd Wave Feminism at its finest.

Yes, because getting on a motorcycle with someone who exceeds the weight limit ergo putting your lives in potential danger is a much better option. Hang on, let me not tell you that you're too heavy to get on this vehicle of limited weight capacity, let's instead get on and get into a fun little accident.

Not to mention OP probably didn't say it that way, he surely made it shorter because he's telling the reason why he feels bad and typing "and i told her i am sorry and this is not to offend you but you see, this has a limited weight capacity and the two of go over this weight limit" or something like this makes it a little long and weird sounding.

Dang, that sucks OP. Hopefully she understands

She won't. She won't hear your explanation of having to adjust the suspension, just that OP said she was fat.

That sucks OP. Talk about an awkward conversation

That's a really sucky situation. However, sometimes the truth and sensitivity don't pair well together. I would rather be told the brutal truth than lied to. Although even then there are times you just can't win.

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This may be one of the most impressive FML comments I've ever seen.

A truly well thought out, deep and meaningful comment there.
You should be a professional writer!

Could she sit on like a side- car or something? Anyways that has to be a tough thing to have to tell a girl. I hope she didn't take it too hard.

Not all bikes are compatible with side cars

And even if it was, why should he be expected to go out and buy a side car because one person wants to go on a ride.

No one suggested OP go buy a side car. It was a question on whether or not it would be a good solution, in the hypothetical situation that one were available.

Most bikers don't have one lying around you know those things aren't cheap

Yikes, that must've been awkward. But hey, safety first...

Just run away.

Well if she's that big you could probably just walk away at a brisk pace really.

Linemen are big as fuck too. You ever watch them run? They are running 40s in high 4s low 5s. Just because they're big doesn't mean they're slow.

@32 your comment gave me a well needed laugh.

Not your fault.. Hopefully she is confident enough to understand without being offended.