and some men just don't understand that no means no. -.-

"Friendzone" is a term used by bitter guys who think that just because they're "nice" and "sweet" and do everything for their crush, they automatically expect that the girl should also have romantic feelings back for that guy

that guys an idiot, you got a lucky break.

Sounds like you dodged a bullet honestly

Friendzoning doesn't happen after 3 dates. His advances were rejected. Now I do wonder if she was giving hints at wanting more. I've had first-dates with women who get touchy-feely and grope inappropriately for 'just friends' only to get that line later. It does make you jaded. The reality is that chemistry will happen on it's own on it's schedule whether it be for sexual relations or emotional bonding. You cannot force either one. You shouldn't wait for it either. Life is too short for a 'maybe' only to find out later it was a complete waste of time and you turned others down thinking it was more when it wasn't. This is why the whole concept of the 3-date rule exists. Albeit 3-dates is a bit fast and suited more for players, 90-days is more appropriate given pheromonal effects and when they lose their influence. In this case, they wanted different things, he got rejected. He hasn't seen friendzoning until he goes out with someone every week for a few months, and then get the 'but we're just friends' line. There's too fast, and too slow. Friendzoning happens in the too-slow lane, not too-fast one. That's simple rejection. She is better off because he is a damn crybaby.

He probably wouldn't be friends-zoned if he would be a decent man with manners. No wonder why little boys are always complaining about getting friendzoned. They're probably moving way too fast -_-

It's wrong for a guy to be pushy, but... In all fairness, the OP phrases it like he was merely "moving too fast" and that had things continued to go good, they would have eventually hooked up later. She phrased it like she "just needed more time/to go slower" and that the guy was a huge jerk for "not wanting to wait". So this truly begs the question. Was she 1) honestly interested in him and planning to hook up down the road once she felt more comfortable (obviously, provided they clicked well and he didn't do anything bad to disqualify himself within reasonable expectations)? -OR-, did she 2) deep down, have NO intention of ever hooking up with him, and she was just using the "he was moving too fast" as a socially valid excuse to reject him and use him for free nights out and attention (while probably hooking up with another man)? IF the answer is option 1), that she would have eventually hooked up with him just not that soon, then I completely sympathize with her situation and feel the guy was a huge jerk. If the answer is option 2), that she was NEVER intending to hook up with him (and yes women know deep down whether they want to or not, DONT EVEN PRETEND OTHERWISE LADIES), then I feel like they are BOTH equally jerks- her for being a deceptive liar and a sneak and a user, and the guy for of course expecting sex. The guy should understand not all girls will want him. On the other hand the girl shouldn't lead a guy on and especially shouldn't deceive him by saying "you're moving too fast" if what she really means is "I enjoy your free money and free attention but I don't want to EVER have you inside me." That's just my take. FAIRNESS. equality. Its wrong when a guy uses a girl for sex and then doesn't give her any emotional validation which is what women want, correct? We can all agree on this? Well ok then its also wrong for a woman to use a man for money and attention and then give him nothing that makes HIM feel happy/good/like a man, aka sex or even any type of sexual/physical affection. Ladies, if ya DO use a man in this cruel way, then don't be the least bit offended or surprised if you ALSO get used in a cruel way by men for sex. Tit for tat

Whats the point of even making a comment if someone will delete it? All I asked is if she actually intended to hook up with him at SOME point down the road, and if she in fact intended to NOT hook up with him, then what right does she have to say that his claim of being friends zoned is false? She did definitely reject him in that case. anyway, censorship- its not cool guys

I didn't make any "accusations about the OP". I simply asked a polite and fair question. I asked if she actually intended to hook up with the guy at some point in the future provided everything went well.... or if she intended to never hook up with him. Its a fair question, and one that has much relevance to the FML. Especially since she is dissing the guy for saying he was friends zoned, I think its important to clarify whether she did indeed intend to ever get physical with him or not. I don't think censoring that question of mine was fair or acceptable. It reflects badly on fmylife.com. Please reinstate my comment I also agreed the guy was wrong too, for being pushy.

Time to block him and move on OP. Seriously this type of guy isn't worth the time or thought!

either i pick fun girls or im amazingly desirable... lol. sounds rough op, but if he fails to respect your wishes, it's not like he was cream of the crop anyway.

He sounds like an asshole who follows pick-up artist websites and their ideas/beliefs. You could do better than him by far.