By it’s still cheating! - 5/9/2021 11:01 - United States - Hesperia

Respect

  Today, my wife, who’s been a stay at home mom since our kids were born, hasn’t really been out looking for a day job since they’re old enough to be in school full time now. She has however been day-drinking and hooking up with the neighbor's wife. She insists she’s not gay, just experimenting. FML
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By  Chazzster  |  22

It doesn’t really matter so much if wife’s “experiments” are with a male or female - that’s not monogamous behavior. Unless you both had agreed to an “open relationship” then I suggest seeing a divorce attorney. You are being used as meal ticket - That plus the infidelity will very likely destroy any semblance of a marriage you had. Your best move now is to salvage what you can of your situation - And that starts with an attorney. The first consultation is usually free.

By the way - Talk to an attorney first before making or announcing your decision. Know what the probable outcomes are first. Different states have different rules and guidelines. And finally if you decide to get divorced, I recommend using an arbitrator if possible and over “dueling attorneys” in court. The courtroom is the absolute worst place to resolve how to divide up property, parental rights, and financial responsibilities.

Yes divorce is expensive if you are a man and you have children. But being bled dry by a parasite who does not care about your feelings isn’t without cost either.

By  Brightside86  |  27

I'm honestly surprised this doesn't happen more often. I mean you leave a person alone with no responsibilities and boundless time, on a long enough timeline this was always going to happen.

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By  Chazzster  |  22

It doesn’t really matter so much if wife’s “experiments” are with a male or female - that’s not monogamous behavior. Unless you both had agreed to an “open relationship” then I suggest seeing a divorce attorney. You are being used as meal ticket - That plus the infidelity will very likely destroy any semblance of a marriage you had. Your best move now is to salvage what you can of your situation - And that starts with an attorney. The first consultation is usually free.

By the way - Talk to an attorney first before making or announcing your decision. Know what the probable outcomes are first. Different states have different rules and guidelines. And finally if you decide to get divorced, I recommend using an arbitrator if possible and over “dueling attorneys” in court. The courtroom is the absolute worst place to resolve how to divide up property, parental rights, and financial responsibilities.

Yes divorce is expensive if you are a man and you have children. But being bled dry by a parasite who does not care about your feelings isn’t without cost either.

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  slkeithh  |  12

Unfortunately it is highly likely she will win out in divorce court. His income power is much bigger than hers and he will be expected to give her a big lump sum payout in addition to spousal support.

By  Brightside86  |  27

I'm honestly surprised this doesn't happen more often. I mean you leave a person alone with no responsibilities and boundless time, on a long enough timeline this was always going to happen.

By  RichardPencil  |  30

Your wife may be bisexual unless there's something you're not telling us.

Has she cut you off altogether? If not, you can't accuse her of being a lesbian. A drunken parasite, maybe...

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  Plop  |  14

Now, if the neighbor's wife is hot and OP's wife manages to score a threesome, I think that would make up for everything else. I mean, a good wingman is highly invaluable these days.