By Anonymous - 05/03/2016 05:57 - United States - Hudsonville
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#48, no, women are not "made" to bring you fuck all at work. But most kind and caring partners will make an effort to make their other half feel special and do shit like that just to see them smile. Are you the type that yells at a man for opening a door because you're capable of doing it yourself? And we wonder why men don't do nice things these days.
29, true, but assuming the same amount of protection (or lack thereof) is used, someone who has slept with dozens of people is more likely to have contracted some sort of disease than someone who has only slept with one or two. Of course, you could have unprotected sex with 100 people and remain clean, and you can get unlucky and sleep with one person and get an STD, but both aren't overly likely. And then there's the added consideration between different types of STDs, as the bacterial ones are curable and fairly mild if caught early, while the viral ones tend to be lifelong companions.
A parent asking their kid's significant other how many sexual partners they've had? That is definitely not normal. And if it is, the son/daughter (son in this case) needs to have a serious talk about privacy and acceptable behavior with their parent. That's something significant others discuss between each other, the parent(s) should not be involved in that at all, as it doesn't effect them and isn't any of their business.
This sounds like something the dad sprang on the girlfriend and his son out of the blue. That is not ok, and it is wrong in that case. If a parent is planning on having this kind of conversation, they need to let their child know beforehand to see if they're ok with it, and also so they can let their SO know, so they're not taken by surprise either, and to make sure that they're with it comfortable too. Also, there's supposed to be a comma in between the word "conversation" and "but." Don't be snooty, we all make grammar mistakes sometimes.
Hey #24, I apologize if I offended you. I wasn't being snooty, I was simply pointing it out before someone else did (you know how this site goes). I may just be playing devil's advocate here, but all I was trying to say was that it's not always something that you should feel uncomfortable speaking with your parents about. I am very forthcoming with my parents about myself and I can truly say that it is a relief not to have to worry about not being honest with myself or those around me. I hope that I have offered some clarity on my previous comment by illustrating that while it may not necessarily apply to everybody and their situation, a person shouldn't feel ashamed of their past (intimate or not).
That's ok, these types of comments and forums don't always convey tone properly. I apologize too, for my reaction. It was honestly just a slip up, I'm actually quite a grammar nazi a lot of the time and definitely know the difference between "affect" and "effect." I get what you're saying, and I think it is good for parents to have an open dialogue with their kids about sex. It helps so they know they can come to their parents if they ever need help, or have a problem and won't be awkward or feel criticized. I was also definitely not implying that having a sexual past, no matter how many partners or whatever, is something to be ashamed about, it is nothing to be ashamed of. I was just saying that the dad bringing this up to the gf like that so suddenly was not only inconsiderate, but also pretty rude. Unless you're sleeping with the person, generally you shouldn't question people about their sex life. It comes off as kind of critical and judgemental. Especially the way this was worded, "so how many guys have you screwed before my son?" Not to mention incredibly awkward if it's another person's parents that are asking you this, because honestly why do they need to know?
I think it would be quite appropriate to retort with something along the lines of "Hey dad, how is that Viagra working for your erectile dysfunction?" followed by a sympathetic hand on the shoulder. I doubt he would keep asking inappropriate questions after that.