It's not everyday that you see a guy that opened to that.

I have to say, that's pretty awesome.

"You are basically stating that you have higher chance of getting it if you are a black female who has sex with a male who may have had sexual relations with another man." Actually, that's EXACTLY what I'm saying. You catch on quick. No, HIV/AIDS does not discriminate, again, needle sharing can transmit the virus. HOWEVER, the commonality of this demographic is that these woman are married to/dating "MSM". It was/is obviously a big enough issue to spur more research, and after doing further investigation and studies, this is what's killing black women. You ever heard of J.L. King? If you haven't go read about him and articles/books about him. He's a black man once living on the "DL" and saw the HIV/AIDS epidemic among was worth blowing the lid off of the "DL" lifestyle.

"some people may be more likely to have that disease subjected to their body in the first place" That's actually what I'm saying, and in this case, it happens to be black women who are sleeping with "DL" black men. This issue isn't them being gay. The issue is them being in denial about their homosexuality that's the problem, hence them being on the "DL". The issue is that if they make the conscious decision to practice safe sex with other men, they are admitting to themselves that they are gay, which by their definition/standard, they aren't. I'm just the messenger. READ! READ! READ!

That's totally awesome, and great how open and honest he is with you. If you turned him down, at least communicate why you were unwilling and not in a negative manner, i.e. EWW THATS GROSS, etc. If you're uncomfortable about switching roles, you can simply say that. Personally I think that was an awesome thing of him to do, and I hope you didnt make him feel bad about being honest and sharing with you.

@ #78 I didn't coin the "DL" term. You either are or you aren't. Two men who have sex ARE gay, so you just have to keep it real. It's the secrecy that's the problem. I am not ignorant about anything regarding this. On the contrary, I am calling things what they are. I'm not trying to call one behavior one thing when it's really another. Again, READ READ READ!

@ #79 "You're looking for warning signs of something being hidden" That's EXACTLY what J.L. King and other formerly "DL" men advise women, particularly black women to do. Mr. King openly admitted that there were signs that his wife should have looked for but didn't. He didn't say that those signs are surefire; he advised investigating further.

Agree with #77. Just because a guy has broad sexual tastes he's still with you, a girl, therefore nothing gay about it.. the fact that he had the strap on around means he's into GIRLS doing it to him. Now if he had asked you for a MMF threesome I would question the situation, but a guy wanting a girl to give it to him is pretty damn hot in my opinion.. Especially if he has anal sex with you first... which makes it a fair deal right?

Anal's supposed to actually feel really good for guys, I would have no problem doing that for my bf.

hahaha thats disguisting, but funny. i would never do that.