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Yes, because having unsatisfactory sex is ALWAYS better than communicating with your spouse. You seriously need to re-evaluate your priorities.

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I'm scared you put the winky face, you remind me of Jeff goldblum's character in Jurassic park:) But I'm sure your a cool dude.

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54 - So she should just lie to her husband and continue to be unsatisfied? No. If they want to have a marriage that lasts, they need to be able to communicate honestly with each other. He may not like what he hears at first, but it'll be worth it in the long run. And this is coming from someone who is married.

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I'm pretty sure most guys complain that they don't get our subtle hints and tell us to communicate things as straight forward as possible. OP doesn't have to put it in a way that will kill his confidence, but I'm sure he'd rather be told that he's lost his touch than find out she's faking her orgasms.

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54- I'm married, my husband and I almost always talk about our sex session afterwards while smoking a cigarette. If wasn't that great we let each other know so we don't do the same positions or techniques again. If it was absolute perfection, well now we know. That's how he knows how to hit the sweet spots. Not subtly, not wearing panties, sure that's great, but it won't make her orgasm.

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64, 65, 69: I'm very VERY happily married. If we get bored, we try something new. But I would never say he's not fulfilling my needs or that I'm bored with him. I never said OP should 'suffer in silence', but I think OP should branch out in healthy ways to spice up the sex life. You misunderstand my reply. OP should bring up the lack of spice and see hubby's take on his end of the fulfillment rope. There are better ways than just saying 'I would rather fake an orgasm then continue having sex wit

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54, it sounds like you're married to a pussy. Tell him to man up. Not all men are hypersensitive. No need to sugar coat it.

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How bout this, all men are different. Some may prefer to be told straight up, while others may get offended. Solution? If your married, i would assume you know your hubby well enough to know which type he is and act accordingly.

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I'm not married (technically common law) but I've been in a relationship eight years. Our sex life is great. Why? BECAUSE WE COMMUNICATE. If something isn't working, we talk about it, which sometimes means saying things like "I'm not feeling satisfied, what can we do to change this?". I'm on a medication that makes it way more difficult to reach orgasm than when I was off of it. Instead of faking them, I talked to my partner and he took me shopping for sex toys. So we implement vibrato

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You guys are diving too deep here. It's not that hard. Climb on top and grind it out. See if you can give yourself and orgasm first. Go straight from oral to cowgirl. Works every time. If you are looking to be dicked into an orgasm every time from missionary, that's your fault not his.

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#54 I disagree. I told my man that I wasn't really getting into the sex anymore and it wasn't really doing it for me. Did it turn out as a fight? No. Did he feel less of a man? No. Did he feel the same way I did? Yes. And we talked and fixed things and now it is back to how it was 3 years ago.

Talk to him about it. If he finds out, things can blow out of proportion unnecessarily. Besides, there are many things to do to spice up ones sex life.

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Yes, because having unsatisfactory sex is ALWAYS better than communicating with your spouse. You seriously need to re-evaluate your priorities.

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Shit, I'd settle for people writing things on post-it notes in Klingon and leaving them on the food in the fridge because I am fed up of this whole 'Romance of Silence' thing. It's worrying when people feel they can't, y'know, ASK for things they want in sex. A reasonable, mature partner would be happy to consider any request that is fairly safe and consensual.

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46 - I'm 99% sure you are trying to be sarcastic and witty. But that comment is probably the worst I've ever seen, bar those made but genuinely stupid people.

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I don't understand how people who are having sex (especially in the context of a long-term relationship) can't have a bloody conversation about it. Hell, if anything about your relationship is bothering you, you should be able to communicate about it with your partner. I used to have a high sex drive, then I got sick and put on a bunch of medications that fuck with my libido. We TALKED about it, and have come to several solutions for if I'm in too much pain for penetrative sex, bought toys so if

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I immediately thought of Ron in Sorcerer's Stone when I read your comment. "She needs to sort out her priorities!"

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