Today, I found out that my fiancé's parents are refusing to pay for a honeymoon, because they "didn't have one, so neither will we", meaning they won't pay for a single thing for our wedding. FML
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Questions about your love life, a burnt turkey and the cousin who knows everything: Thanksgiving, a contact sport.
Today, as I'm traditional, this that means I learned the bride's parents pay for wedding, the groom's parents pay for the honeymoon. My in-laws didn't pay for a honeymoon. Fine - they disappointed me, I'll disappoint them with no grandchildren. No honeymoon, no grandchildren. FML
Today, I found out less than three weeks before my wedding that my fiancé will lose his new, great paying job, unless we cancel our nonrefundable honeymoon. FML
Today, I found my fiancé is cheating on me. Our wedding is in 26 days and everything is already paid for. FML
Today, we gave my in-laws-to-be our wedding invitations. Their first reaction was to assume we needed money and told us they couldn't help pay for the wedding. Their second move was to book hair and make-up for themselves. Congratulations? FML
Today, because my fiancé is criminally incompetent at budgeting, I'm now having to pay the first installment for my own wedding ring. FML
Today, I was told by one of my bridesmaids that she can't afford the travel costs to get to my wedding, after telling me that she didn't need me to organize alternate free travel for her. I'm getting married in less than two weeks. FML
Today, my fiancée told me she can't marry me. Our wedding day is tomorrow and around 20 of our 180 guests attending have travelled half way around the world just for the occasion. FML
Today, six weeks before my wedding, my mother decided to claim that she never agreed on paying for it and that she doesn't think she will. Now I have six weeks to scavenge enough cash for the wedding she planned in the first place. FML
Today, three days before their rent was due, my fiancé's friends moved out of our basement without saying a word to us. On their way out, they took an envelope from my locked desk with $800 in it that was for our wedding in six months. FML
Today, my fiancé told me he didn't have the money to make payments on my engagement ring and that I either have to return it, or make the payments myself. Now we aren't engaged any more, and are "dating." FML
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Snow_Daisy 7
Why don't you save and pay for it yourselves? That IS an option, you kno.
TrekkieGirl 0
Agreed with the previous postings. Honestly, if you're old enough to be getting married, then you should be able to afford to pay for the wedding and the honeymoon. If you can't afford it, then you need to figure something out. It's not the parents responsibility, it's yours. YDI for not planning ahead.
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Comments (244)
spectralblue 0
so ur life sucks because u want others to pay for ur honeymoon? grow up! ydi! I will never ask for such a thing! pay for ur own u selfish spoiled bitch!
PhillyFox 0
Nobody is obligated to pay for your wedding. Yeah some people tend to gift certain parts, like flowers or the honeymoon, but for the most part the financial responsibility is on you. Should've started saving when you got engaged.
aingeal_23 8
Or you could just pay for it yourselves like most other couples in this day and age. I'm currently planning my own wedding, and we didn't plan on either parents helping financially, though they have chosen to do so where they can. Also, many parents believe that they should have control over what they pay for, so it might be a blessing- you won't honeymoon in some place you don't like!
catastrophicsock 0
Well this sucks and all but remember its your obligation to pay for your wedding and no one else's. If someone wants to be generous enough to help at all, good on them, but otherwise, you move on and pay yourself.
pandabear90 0
ur so stupid! it's ur wedding not theirs. that tradition is soo stupid. pay for ur own damn wedding u freeloader. cheapo
drinkmoxie 0
Pay for your own wedding and honeymoon seriously
ImaginaryFoe 1
Ridiculous. I feel sorry for OP's fiance if this sense of entitlement is characteristic. My parents did help pay for my wedding. I didn't ask, they offered and cited tradition and culture as reasons. My husband's parents offered to pay for the liquor and that was all. I say this every other FML but be grateful for what you get and remember no one owes you anything, especially an unnecessary trip with nothing in it for them. Shall they also send you on holiday every year and buy your anniversary presents?
myfriend_youfail 3
The polite thing to do is to pay for your own wedding. The parents will chip in if they want to. That's why my boyfriend and I are waiting. His mother is quite poor, and my parents are living on retirement and on-and-off-again jobs, so we've agreed to come up with the money on our own. The only thing I ask is that my mother make my wedding dress, as she is one of the best seamstresses I know. I'll even pay for the material she'll use. That being said, the whole "I didn't have it so neither can you" attitude is shocking. It's not that your future in-laws refused to pay, it's that they're vindictive, petty, and cruel. It's one thing for them to say "before you ask us for help with the wedding...I'm sorry but we are not financially able, but we'll gladly show up and give you our love and support." It's a completely different matter for them to say "we didn't get to enjoy something, so you won't either." FYL for having a pair of jackasses as your future mother- and father-in-law.
avoidthegirl 6
THIS. THIS THIS THIS. Everyone else in this thread has their head up their asses. Money isn't the issue here; it's their reasoning for why they're not going to do it. If it was discussed before that they would pay and they're now pulling this, it's a pretty bitch move. My fiance's parents are loaded out of their minds, but I expect nothing from them. If they offered to pay for something and then backed out I'd be just as upset because then I would have to rework my budget entirely and if everything had already been paid for/deposited on both my fiance and I would be SOL.
myfriend_youfail 3
Even if they hadn't offered to pay, it would still be disgustingly rude, I think. To just come out and basically say "I'm a bitter, self-centered **** who wants you to suffer because I didn't get to do something years ago" just...isn't right. If I asked my parents for help paying for my wedding, and they said "Sorry, I think the costs are your responsibility", I'd accept that. That would be okay. But I'll be damned if anyone in my current or future family says "we didn't get to do such-and-such and neither should you" and think they're still invited to the wedding.
noype 0
I really doubt that what they said was "We didn't have a honeymoon so you shouldn't either." It was probably more along the lines of "We don't feel there's a need for a couple to have a honeymoon, we realized we didn't need one, so why should we pay for yours? If you want one, then pay for it." It's not vindictive, it's not like there's any real requirement to have a honeymoon. My parents didn't have a honeymoon, they used the money they would have spent as part of a down payment for a house. They had their wedding and reception there. I would never consider asking my parents for money for a fancy wedding or a honeymoon. They didn't see the need to blow a bunch of money on one day or on a trip, and spent their money on something practical. I wouldn't expect them to provide a big party or trip for me.
turdburgers 0
Sorry hon, their reasons may suck, but they don't owe you shit.
fmlreader2010 0
Doesn't sound like you're ready to get married anyways.