Today, I found out that my fiancé's parents are refusing to pay for a honeymoon, because they "didn't have one, so neither will we", meaning they won't pay for a single thing for our wedding. FML
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Thanksgiving
Questions about your love life, a burnt turkey and the cousin who knows everything: Thanksgiving, a contact sport.
Today, as I'm traditional, this that means I learned the bride's parents pay for wedding, the groom's parents pay for the honeymoon. My in-laws didn't pay for a honeymoon. Fine - they disappointed me, I'll disappoint them with no grandchildren. No honeymoon, no grandchildren. FML
Today, I found out less than three weeks before my wedding that my fiancé will lose his new, great paying job, unless we cancel our nonrefundable honeymoon. FML
Today, I found my fiancé is cheating on me. Our wedding is in 26 days and everything is already paid for. FML
Today, we gave my in-laws-to-be our wedding invitations. Their first reaction was to assume we needed money and told us they couldn't help pay for the wedding. Their second move was to book hair and make-up for themselves. Congratulations? FML
Today, because my fiancé is criminally incompetent at budgeting, I'm now having to pay the first installment for my own wedding ring. FML
Today, I was told by one of my bridesmaids that she can't afford the travel costs to get to my wedding, after telling me that she didn't need me to organize alternate free travel for her. I'm getting married in less than two weeks. FML
Today, my fiancée told me she can't marry me. Our wedding day is tomorrow and around 20 of our 180 guests attending have travelled half way around the world just for the occasion. FML
Today, six weeks before my wedding, my mother decided to claim that she never agreed on paying for it and that she doesn't think she will. Now I have six weeks to scavenge enough cash for the wedding she planned in the first place. FML
Today, three days before their rent was due, my fiancé's friends moved out of our basement without saying a word to us. On their way out, they took an envelope from my locked desk with $800 in it that was for our wedding in six months. FML
Today, my fiancé told me he didn't have the money to make payments on my engagement ring and that I either have to return it, or make the payments myself. Now we aren't engaged any more, and are "dating." FML
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Snow_Daisy 7
Why don't you save and pay for it yourselves? That IS an option, you kno.
TrekkieGirl 0
Agreed with the previous postings. Honestly, if you're old enough to be getting married, then you should be able to afford to pay for the wedding and the honeymoon. If you can't afford it, then you need to figure something out. It's not the parents responsibility, it's yours. YDI for not planning ahead.
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Flounder 2
I understand parents paying for their child's college education because there's no way to finance it straight out of high school or on a minimum wage salary, and loans aren't always easy or sensible to get, but if you are getting married that is a true declaration of adulthood (in theory, anyway), and also a statement that you are not only able to take care of yourself but to pool resources to help someone else. If you are unable to pay for your own wedding either you are not adult enough to intelligently budget or you shouldn't be getting married. I have no idea why grown adults expect their parents to pay for weddings, let alone honeymoons - that is just absurd to me. If they do, that's very kind of them, but it shouldn't be EXPECTED.
lostfaithinpppl 19
I agree! OP, you have major entitlement issues.
nica73 0
Pay for the wedding and honeymoon YOU can afford. You are OWED nothing. It's unfortunate your future IL's have the attitude they have, but, at the end of the day, the "obligation" to pay for your wedding and honeymoon rests solely on you. Suck it up.
poeticpunk77 0
While I don't think anyone's parents should be OBLIGATED to contribute any money toward a wedding (and the OP should not have automatically expected that they would contribute any money), I do think it stinks that they didn't offer to pay for anything at all simply because they didn't have a honeymoon. But what can you do? It IS technically your wedding.
some_girl9 8
People on here are such idiots! It is tradition for the bride and groom's parents to pay for the wedding. Even if they don't pay for all of it, they should still contribute SOMETHING. This is a FYL, for sure. OP, I'm sorry that your fiance's parents are so miserable in their own marriage that they want yours to be miserable too. **** them!
noype 0
I agree. It was also "traditional" for the bride to have no say over who they married. The groom simply made a deal with her parents, or even the bride and grooms parents made deals. It's funny how people want to pick the "traditions" that benefit them.
FerrariCake 2
"Other people won't buy me things, so my life is ******!" Seriously, OP? Real men don't expect other people to buy them things. Real men earn their own keep. I feel sorry for the woman you're marrying.
monnanon 14
that REAL man is a woman, if op was a man it would have been spelt fiancée
noype 0
You realize that most people have no idea that there's a difference in how the words should be spelt right? That's not a very good way of determining the gender of the poster.
skyeyez9 25
My patents didn't pay either. Just save up your own money and go.
purplemnm 9
pathetic jealous assholes...gawd...I'd falcon kick their asses
Sparkiee93 3
Oh, poor baby, you don't get to go to Hawaii for free?
Hexefrau 5
I got married on Halloween. I paid for the entire wedding myself; it cost around $3K. I did my own catering, paid for the groomsmen's suits, the bridesmaids' Victorian skirts, the decor, the linens, everything. I worked extra hours and saved for months to be able to do this, because I simply didn't expect anyone to pay for (let alone understand) my dream Halloween wedding. Realistically, we couldn't afford a honeymoon at this time, so we dealt with that by taking a week off of work (each of us) and holing up together in our love nest and playing copious amounts of Tekken and StreetFighter while enjoying sushi and pho. That was almost better than going on some silly trip, IMHO.
OAudeamusO 0
Well how dare they! Oh wait a sec! it's your damn wedding! pay for it yourself!