By carl_carl_ - 25/07/2016 04:17 - United States - Grand Ledge
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And you were on this website looking for older men because...?
The way I read it, this wasn't a dating site specifically for older men seeking younger girls, or younger girls seeking older men. I think it was just a regular dating site and it was her dad that was looking for/at younger women on it. Even if the OP was looking for older men though, I don't see why that matters as it isn't hurting anyone.
OP is, by definition, younger than his/her father. Therefore, they would most likely be looking for "age appropriate" people to date. As for finding his profile, they may have been matched by the site as compatible with their father, which would make sense as he did raise OP and therefore would probably have similar beliefs, recreations, etc.
Hey#16. You obviously got this fml all wrong. And you obviously didn't read what you typed before submitting. It's gross for you to think that OP would get matched with her own father according to your "age appropriate" and because he raised her factors. But I will help you out. OP was not very detailed on her post. OP found her dad using the computer where he was looking for younger girls and possibly women on a dating site. OP did not get matched with her dad. OP caught her dad doing that which is bad because he is married to OP's mom.
You know when people get caught looking at porn or something they're not supposed to? That's what happened here. It's not that OP was signed up to that dating site, she just wasn't very detailed when writing her fml post. She discovered her dad looking for younger girls and possibly younger women on a computer at home. But I agree with you. If OP is single and not married she can be on a dating site and choose a man her age or older. But I can see why many people would think that OP was part of that dating site the way it's worded.(typed)
Damn, frankmz, there's really no reason to be so defensive about OP possibly being on a dating site. It is very likely that OP was also on this dating site and that she came across her own father by accident. It's likely because there are some very popular dating sites out there, and if there's not a lot of people in your area that fit your qualifications, it's likely her father would show up somewhere in the search (for example, simply whoever falls under "older males"). And that would explain why she would know that he's looking for younger girls.
Don't get me wrong. OP has every right to be on a dating site and choose a man her age or someone older. But until OP comments what exactly happened, I believe OP caught her dad using the computer and looking for younger girls on that dating site. The problem isn't that OP was looking for a match or date. The problem here is that her married father was on a dating site looking for younger girls. It could have been women, but OP's dad shouldn't be looking for anyone on a dating site if he's married.
Those who try the hardest to convince social media of their happiness are usually actually the opposite. I'm sorry your father is going about it all wrong, though :/ hopefully him and your mom split up and it gives her a chance to find someone who won't cheat.
I think you should screenshot his dating profile and then talk to your father about your discovery, but do not let him know you save the profile. If he is brave enough to do this behind your mother's back, he is brave to tell her the truth and tried to fix and improve their relationship. If the conversation goes sour, you might have to be the one to tell your mother about this. All the luck to you, OP.
There are many different formulae for happy marriage. This would not fit with mine but it could be that your parents have an agreement of some sort which allows this. Certainly speak to your dad about it but don't assume that their idea of marriage is necessarily the same as yours.
To be more clear, I believe OP caught her dad in the act.(red handed) OP's dad must have been looking for younger girls on a dating site and OP walked in on him. It doesn't say "I found my dads profile on a dating site I use looking for younger girls." Because many people are thinking OP and her dad were using the same dating site and OP found her dads profile. I hope OP provides more information about this incident.
Same experience. And my dad went away today, this is the second time, without a word and no phone coverage. Must have met with one of those bimbos. I will try to find whoever that woman is and murder her.
Your dads behavior is bad to say the least. But don't throw your life away because he is being inconsiderate and hurtful to your mother and your family. You need to be there to support and care for your mom. It's sad to say your dad is only thinking about himself and no one else. Good luck to you and OP's situation as well.