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Did he dump you because of the depression? Or because he was going to anyway? The former is a douche move and be glad to be rid of him. However if it's the latter he might well be going to support you through it as a friend, I can see why he might not want to prolong the relationship for such reasons but might find other ways to support you.

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you need to grow up there is a lot of people that have been diagnosed with depression. With your logic you are pretty much saying girls who say they have depression are lying, when many just want to get help. u suck :)

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18, why should he spend money on something that he knows is already over? ending a relationship is not a punishment. he might as well get on one knee, take out a ring box then dump her.

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maybe she should try not being deppresed and before I get attacked I meant seek proffesional help for it maybe try getting some mood elevators if it's severe enough and go to a therapist and who knows maybe he's not an asshole maybe he was noticing she was deppresed and felt the lust and emotion being drained from the relationship and didn't want to be the support system with someone who had changed

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Okay #20, and #3, think of it this way: I'm not necessarily defending him, but maybe he was planning on it in he first place, and the day she told him about this depression was the same day he was planning on breaking it off. Yeah, that's a shitty situation, but that doesn't mean he was trying to be a douche about it. Again, not defending him, but you have to look at it from both sides. It's an FML, definately, I agree 100%. By the way #72: using text language as an excuse to misspell words only

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What makes you think that she didn't have a therapist or that she wasn't on meds? Getting "proffesional" help doesn't automatically cure depression. In fact, it usually doesn't. Don't accuse this poor girl of doing nothing when you obviously have no clue about the subject.

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i have depression and was in the exact same position as her, my boyfriend did not dump me but helped me from cutting and suicide and that was what she needed. not to be dumped, that would have drove me over the edge.

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He still should not have broken up with her at such a vulnerable moment, it's called basic human compassion. I just think it's fucked that that's what his automatic response would be. And don't call me ignorant please.

That sucks, OP. I recently went through the same thing myself, only mine stuck by me and held me up when I couldn't do so on my own. Just know he wasn't the one for you and you'll find someone better =)

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@37 How are you qualified to make that statement? Have you dated 99% of guys, even in your own town? Perhaps you just need to hang out with a better class of people, instead of assuming everyone is like the people you're associated with.

Did he dump you because of the depression? Or because he was going to anyway? The former is a douche move and be glad to be rid of him. However if it's the latter he might well be going to support you through it as a friend, I can see why he might not want to prolong the relationship for such reasons but might find other ways to support you.

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Agreed. I hate when a person stays with someone because they feel obligated and not because they actually love them. Or, more likely, in the case that someone expects someone to stay with them because of pity.

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Agree with RBG. Staying with someone for obligation or pity is the worst. If he did it because of the depression, it's not the kindest move but it may be self-preservation. I dumped a bf who had severe mental health issues because I knew I couldn't be the help he needed and I didn't love him enough to deal with it all. Mean but the best thing I could've done for both of us. If he was going to do it anyway, it was gutsy on his part to go through with it. At least you are aware of your condition

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When I said dumping her for being depressed was a douche move I imagined the thought going through his head was; oh feck, she's going to be no fun now! If that were the case and he dumped her without thinking it through then I think it's a douche move. If he thought it all through and decided that overall staying with her would negatively affect him and might not help her either, then yeah, I can see the reasoning and it's not so bad. And like I said, he might be more than willing to provide fr

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