Geez, what a dick. Personally, I'd have enjoyed the Java and shut up.

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What?

you DODGED* a bullet

I had to look up what "DW" stands for, lol. But how is it dodging a bullet when OP now has to pay for the damages instead of just paying for coffee? They weren't on a date or anything.

Bend it like Beckham.

"Coffee" isn't a euphemism?

wtf. didn't he see you when you talked about the scratches ?

Online?

Probably left her phone number

I assume OP accidentally scratched his car while it was parked, then left a note apologizing/putting her number for him to call.

What a jerk! Especially if op went out of her way to leave a note (which is what sounds like happened). Most people would've left asap instead of leaving a note claiming responsibility; and then this guy acts like that, total jerk. Hand over the money, and hopefully you never have to be around that guy again; he, unfortunately, has to live with himself and eventually that'll be hard to do. It's a shame that the saying, "no good deed goes unpunished" tends to be so true.

4, I can't tell if you're joking or not, but they had already met in person since the accident happened in person...

Obviously they hadn't met before otherwise he wouldn't have suggested a date instead of money.

Oh goodness, I wasn't saying they had met each other before the accident. I suck at wording my thoughts. Sorry!

I'm guessing he was single and hoping that something more might come of this coffee date.

The good news is since the cost was low it hopefully hasn't set you back much.

I wouldn't pay him a thing until he actually gets an estimate from a repair shop so that he doesn't try and rip you off

I completely agree.

Legally he can't do a damn thing. He has to report it when it happens. Tell him he's a dumbass and should've just had you repair it to begin with.

In California at least you don't have to report it unless it costs more than 750 dollars in damages

Joke's on him, no wonder the only way he can get a coffee date is by writing off someone's debt if he behaves like that.

whose*

He couldn't really say, "Have sex with me to make up for the damage," but that is what "having coffee" is code for.

Make him get an estimate and report what happened. He could always lie about how much the cost of repairs will be. Also, you could pay him the cash and he could always come back later through a more legal route and demand money. Since you don't have anything documented, you'll be legally obligated to pay him even though you had already given him money. Or he could harass you to keep giving him money, and if you eventually have to go to the police, they wouldn't be able to do crap other than maybe having you issue a restraining order or something since you don't have anything documented. I know this is a lot of 'worse case scenario' shenanigans, but this guy is a stranger and you don't know how he will act. Wading through papers and documentation can be inconvenient, but it can protect you from a lot.