By Anonymous - 03/03/2015 22:02 - Germany - Lahr
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How did he even graduate?? Hope you get better, not with his advice though! :) Though partying could work...
You need to go see a real counselor. Depression is a serious issue and to have someone the school employs take it so lightly is really worrisome.
Agreed. Seems like this "professional" doesn't have a clue what depression is. On top of that, "partying some more" is fucking awful advice. I struggled with depression in college and going out to parties only made it worse because I was uncomfortable with meeting new people. I just wanted to be home most of the time. Going out doesn't always help people feel better. At least not people like me. As for OP, I hope you find a coping mechanism. And I give you serious credit for seeking help. It's a great first step.
Partying is not a cure for depression. Real depression is a medical disorder and requires real medication, its not the same as being unhappy or not having enough fun in your life. If someone is ACTUALLY depressed, partying can be the worst idea possible, since alcohol is NOT good for people with depression. This guy sounds like he needs to be reported before his shitty advice does some real damage to someone!
When my struggling friend went to the support centre at her university, before she could get a referral to a doctor or psychiatrist, she had to sit with the counselor. But with extreme depressive lows, there are also highs, and some people really go between these and when hey're on the up/high there's no telling when they'll crash down again. So my friend was going through a high phase, and the counselor didn't want to see her then, despite the booking, because there might be more important, extreme cases. But when you go in they ask you to describe all the bad stuff your thinking/feeling - and putting yourself back in that mindset to describe it can actually put you in it. Last time my friend just freaked at the counselor and called her incompetent - she got a medical referral after that.
It is really great to see so many responses from people who understand what depression is. Not so long ago, it was something no one talked about. It was something to keep hidden from everyone close to you. OP, depression is a serious condition. You need to see a professional. This Dr doesn't understand your problem. He should have referred you to someone else instead of pretending like he knew what was up. Don't let that experience discourage you from seeking help.
I could be wrong 50 but what you're describing is bipolar disorder. Not all people who are 'very' depressed go on highs. I suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder - basically, it's like bipolar but I experience many highs and lows in just one day, every day.