Sex workers unite!

By not a fan - 07/04/2021 08:00 - United States

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Today I’ve been called a prude, a misogynist, a controlling bastard and worse all because I have a problem with my girlfriend masturbating for strangers online. She has an OnlyFans and I hate it. FML
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Simple solution: break up and find someone who isn't a sex worker.

She can do what she wants, but that doesn't mean you have to stay in a relationship with her. If she cannot understand why that would be an issue to you, and you don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who has that as a profession or side gig, your values aren’t compatible and it’s time for you both to move on.

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Simple solution: break up and find someone who isn't a sex worker.

That's cheating. There is no way around that one and no way to justify it in any way. The most basic agreement in a relationship is remaining faithful to one another.

She can do what she wants, but that doesn't mean you have to stay in a relationship with her. If she cannot understand why that would be an issue to you, and you don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who has that as a profession or side gig, your values aren’t compatible and it’s time for you both to move on.

She's allowed to do whatever job she wants. She's allowed to have an OF. He doesn't have to be with her, but it's not cheating, it's just something he's not comfortable with, which is fine, but that's on him not her, you don't get to poison peoples minds and make them think they have a moral highground when they don't. If being an OF creator is cheating, then watching porn is cheating. Get over yourself.

Yes. It's cheating. Performing sex acts for other people, if your significant other hasn't consented to it, IS cheating. Can she do what she wants? Of course. But I'm in agreement that it's cheating. The O.P. should dump her and find someone with the same values as his. Consent of your partner is what makes this ok. Non-consent makes it cheating.

No, it's not cheating. If it was one on one, for free, then yes you're right. This is a JOB. This is distanced from those consuming the sex acts you said. It's not any more intimate than stripping and if you think stripping is also cheating you're not only delusional but you're sexist too.

Nah it's cheating. The boundaries of cheating change depending on the couple. Some couples are ok with their partners doing certain things with other people and some are not. OP told his girlfriend that he is not comfortable with her masturbating online and she refuses to respect that. That's cheating. She can continue to do an OF but she's gonna be single.

Well whats her name? 🤣 totally kidding fella. Look - you do NOT have to tolerate that. It is perfectly acceptable for you to be true to your values for YOURSELF. Don’t compromise your beliefs for a piece of ass. If you stay- it will just fester and build resentment which is not good for either of you. I get it, you may love her but you will love many in a lifetime - respect & honor also play a role in a relationship. To thine own heart be true.

if you can't be supportive of her no matter what job she has, either break up with her, or tell her to break up with you. also here is some truth for ya, she may show her body on OF, but she was still sleeping with you. you are the one with the hang up, not her.

Look, you don't have to like it but it's her life, so here is what you do, do you like her more than you hate OF? Yes? Get over it. No? Then you should break up. Do not even think about trying to leverage the breakup as a way to change her desire to make her own money. Because what these people said isn't inherently right or wrong, not everyone has the same feelings towards shit, but it's how you've gone about it that makes them say what they've said. So do what I said, make a choice. Love her and accept her choice, or don't love her and move on.

This is a form of cheating. And the fact that she doesn't care about your opinion on her performing sex acts for others shows she doesn't value your relationship. Dump her and find someone who shares your opinions on what is and isn't ok sexually.

then dump her

Whats the name?

Very sorry about that, you did well in knowing your values

I'm gonna hazard a guess that its more than just you "having a problem" with it, and you've been a wild a$$ about it. accept your girlfriend in all her glory or leave.