By Anonymous - 10/06/2014 20:06 - Barbados - Bridgetown
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OP, your kid will never be too old to get the shit spanked out of them for being disrespectful..
Because to a lot of people, spanking isn't abuse. It's not beating a child senseless or even doing any serious damage. It's a smack on the bum to teach children discipline and to teach them to respect their parents, caregivers and any other authority figures they may have growing up. It's not like they're getting out a whip to belt a child's backside to the point where it's raw and bleeding. It's a smack, hard enough for a second or two of pain but not to hard to cause damage.
Except that studies have proven that spanking is never used right like 90% of the time (meaning only on the butt, when the parent is in control of their emotions, etc) in reality it is too hard to be fair with physical punishment. Not to mention Op is far too old for that now, and something as simple as "disrespect" probably doesnt warrant spanking
This is a good article to further read on it. Science and psych studies have already proven that the best methodology to raise kids it to take the time to sit down and reason with and explain things to them. Kids understand reason. However most parents either don't have the time or patience to do it and may resort to spanking while angry or frustrated (never the right time to serve physical punishment) spanking can work if executed properly but 90% of the time it never is (lot of people lying to themselves about this one too). I know several friends under going therapy for family abuse that started as spankings going too far etc and knowing these things, spanking really shouldn't be considered unless proper conditions of justice are met as prerequisites. Here is the article I was referring to: http://gauss.unh.edu/~mas2/CP24.pdf
Most 19 year olds have a young and all too idealistic view on the world. After she has a daughter she will come crying to you and thank you for loving her so much. So I wouldn't take it too harshly for now, give it a few years :)