By sXeQueen - 13/03/2010 15:17 - United States
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FIRST you should practice singing, then maybe you won't suck. Still, FYL.
I agree with Monikabug (cute nickname by the way!). I enjoy listening to my girlfriend sing, but when she sings to make me feel better when I'm upset, I feel really irritated. I don't mean to be unappreciative--I appreciate the gesture, it's just in that heated moment I want to talk. In that moment, I feel like singing is getting in the way of the issue at hand and it just grates my nerves. Just being there for him to support him is enough; even just your presence and sympathy helps. You sound like a very sweet girlfriend. :)
Well said, Monika and cardinal. I just want to know why you made this about you,OP. He told you he was having a bad day from the beginning. You made an (ill-advised) attempt to cheer him up and because he didn't appreciate you're whining? In a relationship, you sometimes have to sit in the backseat. It sounds like he normally aporeciates you and you obviously meant well. Just let this one go and find another way to support him next time.
That's the problem with many people, especially tone-deaf people; everyone thinks they can sing, and sing well. Unless you've received actual music training (e.g., singing or even playing an instrument), you probably can't sing well. Of course, there are some outliers. It's often socially unacceptable and extremely mean to tell people to their face that they're horrible singers. Often, people will just skirt the issue by saying "It's good", or "I like it", just to get you to shut up. If you say it's bad, they'll sometimes try to prove you wrong by singing more. You probably can't sing as well as your boyfriend says. He's trying to get in your pants through flattery. It reminds me of my ex-girlfriend who thought she could sing like an angel. Instead, it sounded like a howling cat. I told her. At least I didn't have to hear a tone-deaf song anymore. Your boyfriend should be more honest to you.
^ LOL WIN! @ #56: well she obviously thought her singing was good enough to calm her boyfriend down...which is dumb in its self. And the point popoman was trying to make was that the only reason the OP's boyfriend said her singing was good was possibly because he didn't want to tell her the truth.
Well, I'd prolly say the same thing because it's just awkward when someone starts singing, cheering me up or not.