By badsinger - 04/06/2010 09:38 - New Zealand
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I totally disagree with all of these "you're unappreciated/she's an ungrateful bitch" comments. She was having a bad day, people. If I was having a bad day, I'd be highly irritated by the end of the night too, ready to go to sleep and start a new day as quickly as possible. How would you like to be so close to getting to sleep, only to be woken up by your fiancé singing a song that your mum used to sing to you - only butchering it? I know it was a kind gesture from the OP, but really I don't think this should be about her being ungrateful, or unappreciative. I know EVERYONE here has had at least ONE bad day in their life. You guys tend to look at things one-sided.
I can see what you are saying, but I would think that he would have a general idea. I wouldn't start singing to someone if they were about to fall asleep anyways. Even so, dear Pen, I still don't think that the OP's fiancé can really be considered ungrateful for having a bad day and therefore being moody, so I stand by what I said.
Bad days are one thing, using profanity against your fiance is another matter entirely. Even when tired or irritated, partners should not say such harsh, crude, and hurtful statements to each other. Should the OP marry this woman, she will be the kind of wife who routinely calls her husband profane names. It's just her personality. This kind of behavior helps to destroy relationships.
Sounds mean I suppose, but if I were in a bad mood i'd probably tell you to shut the fuck up as well. Most people just want to be left alone if they're in a bad mood, otherwise they'll let you know, like "let's do something to get my mind off of things" otherwise, it's best to leave them alone. Or else you'll probably have a repeat of today.