By Anonymous - 10/2/2021 06:58 - United Kingdom - Halesowen

Thanks for the support

Today, I felt suicidal and told my mum I was going to hang myself from my curtain rod. All she cared about was the rod possibly coming loose and damaging the wall. FML
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By  kimdaa  |  11

I don't want to sound mean or unsympathetic, but suicidal people rarely make such broad announcements (you could be the exception) and your mother clearly didn't take your throat seriously. If you are truly suicidal then please seek help from a qualified person... friends and family aren't skilled/trained in the ways to properly help you. If you're not suicidal and merely want attention or time with your family, please know that this is not the way to get it. Sometimes things that seem incredibly overwhelming in the moment become less overwhelmed with time. Please get the help (and perspective) that's best for you.

By  toodamntall  |  8

I'm sorry, but that's blatantly not true. Lots of people who are suicidal will make comments like that ("I'm going to kill myself") as a cry for help, due to feeling isolated, scared, aware that their thoughts aren't healthy, or because they don't know how to seek help.

Having suicidal thoughts and tendencies does not = killing yourself. Saying "I'm going/want to kill myself" is not a threat or attention seeking. It means they are experiencing the urge, thought or desire to harm/kill themselves and they want help and support. Saying something like that does not make their mental or emotional state any less valid, regardless if they actually try to commit suicide or not.

Assumptions and claims like yours are the reason why there is still such a strong stigma surrounding mental health, and is exactly why people who are suicidal often won't speak up.

OP has already tried to seek help; they tried to seek help from their mum, who clearly disregarded their mental state in favour of concern for their curtain rod and walls.

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By  kimdaa  |  11

I don't want to sound mean or unsympathetic, but suicidal people rarely make such broad announcements (you could be the exception) and your mother clearly didn't take your throat seriously. If you are truly suicidal then please seek help from a qualified person... friends and family aren't skilled/trained in the ways to properly help you. If you're not suicidal and merely want attention or time with your family, please know that this is not the way to get it. Sometimes things that seem incredibly overwhelming in the moment become less overwhelmed with time. Please get the help (and perspective) that's best for you.

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  toodamntall  |  8

I'm sorry, but that's blatantly not true. Lots of people who are suicidal will make comments like that ("I'm going to kill myself") as a cry for help, due to feeling isolated, scared, aware that their thoughts aren't healthy, or because they don't know how to seek help.

Having suicidal thoughts and tendencies does not = killing yourself. Saying "I'm going/want to kill myself" is not a threat or attention seeking. It means they are experiencing the urge, thought or desire to harm/kill themselves and they want help and support. Saying something like that does not make their mental or emotional state any less valid, regardless if they actually try to commit suicide or not.

Assumptions and claims like yours are the reason why there is still such a strong stigma surrounding mental health, and is exactly why people who are suicidal often won't speak up.

OP has already tried to seek help; they tried to seek help from their mum, who clearly disregarded their mental state in favour of concern for their curtain rod and walls.