divorce is in the future

Leave him. He will only drag you down and you don't need that in your life.

Amazes me what people get away with in their relationships on this site.

You didn't pay ALL of the bills -- you forgot the weed bill. In some households, that's a thing. Don't get all paranoid, but yours is one of those.

I think you can find a better guy.

let him grow a plant in a closet or basement. go buy him a zip, not cool. weed is a bill, you didn't pay them all.

dump his @$$

So, OP, you are getting weeks of silence to re-evaluate whether this freeloading jerk should stay in your life or not? Sounds like a win to me...