Today, I heard from my dad for the first time in over six months. It was through Facebook, in a message blaming my brothers and me for his horrible life, and in which he spelled my name wrong. FML
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Today, my dad has dementia and has been getting my name wrong with increasing frequency. During one of his lucid moments, he ended up admitting those wrong names are actually of his other 7 kids, my half siblings to various women, 5 in this country and 2 in Europe, but I’m not to tell my mother. FML
Today, I finally read an email I'd been avoiding. I thought it would be from my dad whom I haven't spoken to in years, and that he was checking on me during the pandemic. It turned out to be spam. The last contact I had with anyone related to my dad was one of his ex's friends, saying she was in jail and needed help. FML
Today, I was confiding in my dad over the phone, after I caught my girlfriend cheating on me. After I hung up and went online, I noticed he'd been live-blogging the whole call on Facebook and commenting that he was considering suicide to escape the boredom. FML
Today, my father who left my family over 10 years ago and never contacted us or paid child support, poked me on Facebook. FML
Today, my father called me for the first time in two weeks since I moved away. Excited, I answered the phone. It was a mistake. He thought he'd called my sister. FML
Today, a woman reached out to me on Twitter to ask me if my dad was OK, since she talks to him every day and they haven't talked in a few days. She also doesn't know if he's in prison or not. My father left when I was 3, and I haven't talked to him in months. FML
Today, I saw my dad for the first time in almost five years, at his funeral. FML
Today, my dad called for the first time in six months. He needs someone to bail him out of jail. FML
Today, I spoke to my dad for the first time in over a year. I've been volunteering in Mongolia, I have no running water, freeze my ass off everyday and communication with anyone who speaks English is scarce. One of the first things my father said to me was, "out of sight, out of mind." FML
Today, my dad posted on Facebook, apologizing to anyone he'd texted the night before. He said he'd gotten wasted and didn't mean anything he said. So much for that first ever "I'm proud of you" then. FML
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sux4u121 10
Just because you had a bad fatherly experience doesn't make fathers overrated. A large majority of dads aren't assholes believe it or not.
redmane 21
My dad died of glioblastoma multiform stage 4 brain cancer when I was 12. He was not overrated. I got my artistic abilities from him and I'm very glad I did. It's a memory to carry with me. Just because yours wasn't there doesn't mean you can say that dads are overrated.
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Comments (63)
WrongRomance 11
Sounds like a bum father. Block him.
dont_doubt_me 29
Don't worry OP. The bright side is that negativity isn't around you? (:
juliaannw 11
Dont worry, someday when youre on your own, you'll shpw him how great your life is without him and he'll realized what he missed.
maddygirl820 10
Some people just aren't meant to be parents, but there's nothing wrong with you OP just him
shutupAnderson 7
Well it's a good thing you didn't have a bloody loser fathering you for most of your life, sorry Op.
natsaysheyyy 16
Sounds like he's not your DAD, but a SPERM DONOR. Any parent that just walks out on their children for any reason short of premeditated murder is not an actual parent, just someone who shares the same DNA as you. Kick him to the curb and forget him!
oj101 33
The hypocrisy. Being horrible to his son because his son was supposedly horrid to him?
DanielleinDC 33
OP is a woman. And OP, I say unfriend and block. You don't need his toxic nastiness in your life. And if he thinks you and your brothers are responsible for his horrible life, then he won't miss you when you remove him from yours.
Eivana 37
You can't let that get into your head. There is no way you could have ****** up his life. All you did was live. All kids have their own problems, no kid is perfect. So if your dad didn't realize it when he decided to have kids then well, he's an idiot. Ignore him. He obviously won't be of any help to you in the long run, even if he is your biological dad.
vadaaa 11
OP, he has absolutely no one to blame but himself. Remember that. You could always message him saying "My life, however, is great. No thanks to you, 'dad'".
outoftown 26
Sorry you had to see that, OP. Just sucks. As others said, it's about him, not you. I hope he can wise/sober up, apologize to you, and make amends.