By Fitz - 9/9/2021 22:59

Family ain't all it's cracked up to be

Today, I finally read an email I'd been avoiding. I thought it would be from my dad whom I haven't spoken to in years, and that he was checking on me during the pandemic. It turned out to be spam. The last contact I had with anyone related to my dad was one of his ex's friends, saying she was in jail and needed help. FML
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By  Brandy Plapp  |  11

Are you in a position to feel comfortable reaching out to him or have you already? I understand how difficult these relationships can be and I hope you can find some resolution that you are comfortable and can live with 💜

By  Chazzster  |  22

You could take this as a sign that maybe you should try to contact Dad and ask if he’s OK during this pandemic. Maybe something good will come from it. At the worst you will know you tried. At the best something good might actually come from it. Just don’t offer or agree to any financial help for Dad or his girlfriend until you understand the situation a lot better.

I think that sometimes the universe sends us a signal that we should try to do something good. You could take this as something like that, just don’t become taken advantage of or become someone’s punching bag taking the blame for their own bad decisions.

Family should always be important, but I understand that some people in our family may be toxic. After a history of bad faith, you may have to remove them from your life. It’s sad when that’s the case but if you don’t protect your own mental health and survival you will be no good to anyone else. Only you know your particular history with your Dad and only you can decide if the relationship can be mended.

As for me , I give people in my close family a second and sometimes a third chance. If that doesn’t work out then I know that I tried. But sometimes you do have to wall off some bad actors if they seem to be too toxic to deal with.

I hope things work out for you.

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By  Brandy Plapp  |  11

Are you in a position to feel comfortable reaching out to him or have you already? I understand how difficult these relationships can be and I hope you can find some resolution that you are comfortable and can live with 💜

By  Chazzster  |  22

You could take this as a sign that maybe you should try to contact Dad and ask if he’s OK during this pandemic. Maybe something good will come from it. At the worst you will know you tried. At the best something good might actually come from it. Just don’t offer or agree to any financial help for Dad or his girlfriend until you understand the situation a lot better.

I think that sometimes the universe sends us a signal that we should try to do something good. You could take this as something like that, just don’t become taken advantage of or become someone’s punching bag taking the blame for their own bad decisions.

Family should always be important, but I understand that some people in our family may be toxic. After a history of bad faith, you may have to remove them from your life. It’s sad when that’s the case but if you don’t protect your own mental health and survival you will be no good to anyone else. Only you know your particular history with your Dad and only you can decide if the relationship can be mended.

As for me , I give people in my close family a second and sometimes a third chance. If that doesn’t work out then I know that I tried. But sometimes you do have to wall off some bad actors if they seem to be too toxic to deal with.

I hope things work out for you.