Double standard

By Anonymous - 09/01/2012 05:01 - United States

Today, I spent five hours sobbing in my room due to antidepressant withdrawal. My mother refused to come and talk to me, because I'm "a terrible, hateful child who only cares about herself." Last week, I spent two hours comforting her because my brother hadn't called in a week. FML
I agree, your life sucks 35 199
You deserved it 3 688

Same thing different taste

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bi-polarism is a terrible disease. feel bad for her

Buttsexpirate 9

Sounds like somebody needs a hug! :3


Surely this isnt true, and your mom is just being a bitch

bi-polarism is a terrible disease. feel bad for her

but seriously, i'm sorry OP. i hope you feel better cause i know things can get hard. just talk to your mom and let her know you want her support

What a bitch! If she's on any meds you should take them and dump them in the toilet and see how she likes it.

^ uh if her mother IS actually bipolar, then that is a terrible idea. Never take a bipolar person off their meds. My psych teacher had a bipolar neighbour who decided to go off his meds and he set her house on fire... Though I agree that OP's mother is a ******* bitch.

I doubt the mother is bi-polar. People tend to diagnose that mental illness on a whim because someone had a single mood swing, that's not what being bi-polar is, not even close. I think the mother is just one of those people who can't stand it when someone else needs attention. THEY have to be the center of the world for everyone (hence the wailing that her son hasn't called her in a while.) Now that her daughter (the OP) needs attention and support, the mother is angry because that means that she, herself, isn't the center of the world. That's not being bi-polar, that's just narcissism, something very common these days. It also wouldn't surprise me if the mother had hypochondria or munchausen's syndrome, but I don't know enough to really tell It just wouldn't surprise me.

BeaterOfTheDrums 15

86 I agree. My mother has to be the center of attention 24/7. And has a different mood every day, And tells the same stories about work over and over until,you want to rip your ears off. Add alcohol and it's worse...

She is? Or the mom you really have to make things clearer!

How are you a terrible hateful child :$ hmm? My mom does the same thing :(

well in a sense, you can't just read this and decide she really isn't, it just wouldn't be fair to the mother. lesson to be learnt, always listen to both sides before making a judgement. I see why your mother says you're hateful.

That's true, overall OP is complaining about her mother being upset because she missed her son...

theladyofepic 3

OP is complaining, if you can even call it that, because she comforted her mother and she (the mother) has ignored that and decided to be hateful towards her child, which is amazingly immature of her.

I can understand that it would be hard for a parent to cope with a child being depressed but rejecting them when times are tough is the worst thing you could do!

It's really not that hard to try and comfort someone. Even if you don't know what to say, sitting down with them and rubbing their back or resting your arm over their shoulders helps a lot more than you would think. The feeling of not being alone and that you have someone to lean on is an incredible help to support someone when they are feeling depressed or just had a really bad night.

It's harder than you think because I am sure a lot of parents don't understand depression or feel that they have failed. Because people with depression can have erratic moods a hug may make them more angry. But nevertheless, its terrible that the OP is alone during something that is extremely difficult.

Buttsexpirate 9

Sounds like somebody needs a hug! :3

OMG 0.0 I think we live the same lives with the same kind of people!!! PS I also gained about 30 pounds within two month after I stopped taking my anti depressants without even changing my eating habits. Damn Prozac!!! Took it for 3 years.

Why would he hug his mom? Slap her OP.

Ugh, your mom sounds like a self-centered jerk! Everyone is selfish unless it pertains to her. :( Sorry OP, hope you get a refill soon.

I think the term I'd use would be "drama queen". :-/

Well now we know why OP brother didn't call.

Moms really know how to be random bitches with no real purpose. It sucks

Anti-depressant withdrawal..? Are you actually clinically depressed or were just taking the pills? If you actually have no condition I have no sympathy for you..YDI. If you do have a condition and can't get medication for whatever reason..FYL.

Maybe she hasn't had the chance to go get more pills for her condition that made her need to take antidepressants. So not taking the pill = anti depressant withdrawal, because her body is used to the medication and without it, she can't feel happy.

Which is exactly what I said!? There are plenty of variables in this situation which is why I didn't vote YDI OR FYL, could go either way!

GoW_Chick 14

I think he was more trying to say in the first part that if OP just takes them for recreational purposes YDI you can get them with out a doctors prescription even though that is a real stupid thing to do

Thank you GoW_Chick, that's exactly what I was trying to say, just in as few words as possible. At least some people catch my drift. By the way: I love most of your comments! :D

You're outrageously naive if you think high school kids don't take drugs recreationally. I believe some antidepressants contain acetaminophen which is similar to ADD/ADHD medication. Depending on what medication OP is taking and considering he/she didn't specify if they were prescribed, if OP doesn't have a condition these types of medications can have an adverse effect. I wasn't ruling anything out, like I said in previous posts, there are TONS of variables with this post.

GoW_Chick 14

I've heard a lot of stories and seen teens destroy their lives by popping pills, as to why they do it I don't know, some may be taking them for fun at parties or with friends, others because that's the only way they think they can solve a problem, it's actually a big problem in high schools here in Florida.

I'm from Wisconsin and currently live in Alabama and its a problem in both states, I'm pretty sure it's a nationwide situation..

Oh we go again with your comments. Number one: OP doesn't mention her age, so just because she "sounds likes she's in high school" to you, doesn't make it so. Number two: high school kids get high ALL THE TIME. And this isn't exactly something new, it's been going on for decades. But obviously, you live in a hole.

So you were essentially your roommate's drug dealer during exam times. And you pride yourself on being classy? Good job. High school kids who do drugs are just like any other drug addict. They will take whatever to get high. Weed, coke, antidepressants, it doesn't matter as long as it's a drug. Did you think they were special? They're not. So no, your question was not answered with pure stupidity.

I've had an Adderall prescription before as well, I didn't say anything about stupidity. I made an attempt to explain why kids take/do drugs recreationally, which is to obviously, get high. SOME antidepressants do contain acetaminophen and some don't which can be prescribed in addition to ADD/ADHD medications. I was trying to better explain myself and reply to your question. I, still being a teen (19 almost 20) am in the loop with these things. I didn't want to create an argument, simply explain things. Sorry for any confusion.

constipatedlady 0

Except that not all drugs get a person high and antidepressants have no recreational benefits so it is pure stupidity to take antidepressants recreationally.

And yet people do it anyway so ^ your argument is invalid. You can get addicted to things that don't get you high.

I wouldn't know. I've never taken them.

A drug addict most probably won't care what they're taking. Anti-depressants obviously have an effect, even if it's not that immediate high you get from cocaine or something.

constipatedlady 0

I bet you've taken the drug branded as Tylenol. According to your words of wisdom, antidepressants contain it.

Withdrawal from anti-depressants can include depression itself (and anxiety), however, it is worse if you had depression in the first place. Depression is more often than not a feeling of lethargy and just no motivation to do anything, that feeling will not go away over even weeks, months, years. So you feel "sad". If the OP is in hysterical tears because of the withdrawal, I'm going to assume that she had depression in the first place, because the anxiety plus the exaggerated depression due to the withdrawal would cause a reaction like that.

How do you know she isn't on drugs as well as knowing OP would be more specific if she was? don't. So thanks for that useless post. We were discussing the variables with this particular FML and your post contributes nothing, thanks though.

SaMmIMonster96 6

Yes that is true about the dr but people find ways to get these pills

SaMmIMonster96 6

I understand what he is saying and agree 100 %

There's no evidence in this post that the antidepressants are taken recreationally. If your going to comment on the FML, actually comment on things that are mentioned. We might as well assume she's a Russian spy....

^ and there's no evidence that the antidepressants were prescribed to her either. It's not "mentioned". They probably were, but nothing is definite.

There's actually serious side effects to quitting SSRI's or any antidepressant med. I was on a dopamine drug and when I got off of it it made me sweat all the time and itch everywhere, in additon to anxiety and heightened levels of depression. And by the way, overdosing on SSRI's can result in Serotonin Syndrome, which is basically a bad acid trip with fever and possible seizures added in. So that may be a reason some (stupid) teenagers are taking them without a prescription.

MsMel 0

You cannot get high from taking anti depressants. lol. Ive been on them and they no where near make me feel high. After weeks of taking them all they do is make u want to get u and do things instead of sleep all day.

mintcandyapple 3

omg dude u keep saying acetaminophen!!!! u sound completely clueless for someone who is "in the loop" lol if ur going to throw in big words get ur facts straight! ur probably trying to refrence amphetamines!!!! lol

ShroomsOnAcid 16

Pelreskovich, I agree with you, but I just want to clear up some confusion. You're thinking of amphetamine, not acetaminophen. The former is the stimulant, and the latter is essentially Tylenol. There are a number of drug types that are prescribed for depression, which include classic anti-depressants, anti anxiety medications such as benzodiazepines, and sometimes amphetamines. While classic anti depressants most likely won't produce any desirable effects in a healthy individual, the other two are commonly misused for recreational purposes. Their use amongst high school students makes sense since they often have very easy access to it through personal prescription or that of relatives. OP didn't specify what exactly they were taking, so we shouldn't rule out the possibility of abuse and therefore a partial YDI.

ShroomsOnAcid 16

As for Sarah...well...poor Sarah.

myoukei 31

I'm going to side with the op on this one... I have ADHD and my medication for it is an antidepressant. I am a teenager who takes a dose ment for a second grader but I know when I was taking that dose as a kid, the pills ****** me over. for many, anti-depressants actualy make one depressed; they even mention it and an increase in suicidal thoughts as a side effect in tv commercials. because I go through both (along with headaches, mood swings, joint pains, and jitters) I personally don't believe that someone who didn't need antidepressants would take them to the point were they go through withdrawal. if she was depressed enough to need the pills, then you have no right to say that she is a druggie.

FeroniaMoonscyth 2

59: ADHD meds have amphetamine salts. Acetaminophen is an over the counter NSAID pain reliever and fever reducer.

cryssycakesx3 22

if OP was taking benzos the PAWS last longer than heroin withdrawal.