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By Anonymous - 13/08/2020 20:06

Today, my father-in law-shared his opinion that autistic kids should be beaten until they act normal. He saw fit to share this while my autistic son was having a meltdown because my father-in-law came to the house without warning, and my son violently hates visitors without prior warning. FML

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By Anonymous - 05/09/2023 06:00

Today, my father is strongly trying to convince me not to have kids because "autism runs strong" in my husband's family, and he’ll be damned if any grandchild of his is subnormal because what would the neighbours think, and he couldn’t invite his colleagues to our family barbecues anymore. FML

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Insufferable

By Anonymous - 30/04/2023 15:00

Today, my autistic dad asked while I was in the middle of giving birth if I could be quieter and to hurry up because he was four hours late for work. When I yelled at him, he faked one of his meltdowns so mom had to leave me to deal with him, even though it’s SUPER obvious when he’s faking. God I hate his guts. FML

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Guilt by association

By Never Too Old - 01/08/2022 19:00 - United States

Today, my dad has officially started testing to find out if he is autistic. I'm happy for him defying the "too old" stigma; however, the problem is that I am autistic as well, and my dad can be a rather unpleasant person at times, so I'm afraid he'll give the disorder a bad name and make both of our lives worse. FML

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By annie - 14/10/2018 12:00

Today, my mother-in-law visited. She saw my 5-year-old son rip open a chip bag, causing chips go everywhere. She got up in his face and started screaming at him about how he has an "attitude problem". He doesn't, he's autistic and genuinely has trouble with food packaging. FML

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By metallifreak44 - 14/11/2011 13:37 - Canada

Today, as a support worker, I spent 45 minutes making various attempts to calm a violent autistic kid. Just as soon as I was sure the crisis was over, he beat me as hard as he could with the "Things I Can Do When I'm Mad" book I'd given him. FML

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By ProudASDmom - 30/03/2016 02:39 - Canada - Chilliwack

Today, my son's first impression of our new neighborhood was to be yelled at by the first kid he tried to introduce himself to, because my son was on the edge of their lawn. Half-an-hour later, I got a lecture at the corner store, because the clerk thinks vaccinations caused my son's autism. FML

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So wrong

By Anonymous - 15/06/2020 08:09

Today, my boyfriend came over to meet my family. When I told him I had an autistic brother before he came in, he immediately broke up with me because he claimed autism is another word for overprotective. I've been dating an idiot. FML

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Switching off

By Anonymous - 14/01/2022 17:04

Today, my wife finally gave up on our autistic 11 year-old son and decided to have him taken into a care facility, because his autism is so bad, all he can do is sleep, stare vacantly, play on his iPad, or scream for hours. I’m kind of glad he’s leaving, but I can’t shake the dam guilt. FML

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Nice try, Patricia

By Anonymous - 04/08/2022 02:00

Today, I had to deal with a lady who claimed her son was autistic to try and skip the queue. Even her son was saying he’s not autistic, and she was screaming in his face that yes he was. I happen to be genuinely autistic. Security threw her out, and I was jealous that I didn’t get to do it. FML

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It's all too much

By IHaveThePower - 07/10/2021 23:00 - Canada - Ottawa

Today, I spent all day cleaning for my grandparents to come over, only for my grandfather and father to interrupt me, talk over me, and treat me like I'd done something wrong. I'm autistic and was infodumping. They know this. FML

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alex_jaguara 32

Thursday 13 August 2020 20:27

If he doesn't see anything wrong in abuse, not just child at that, I would orbid him entering your home.

bl3ur0z3 17

Thursday 13 August 2020 21:33

Unannounced visitors should be chased off the property with sticks and other injurous objects until they learn to respect the people, including children, upon whom's homes they are intruding.

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Jaymail 18

Thursday 13 August 2020 20:17

Remember this conversation in case your Father-In-Law ever starts getting “soft in the head” from age.

alex_jaguara 32

Thursday 13 August 2020 20:27

If he doesn't see anything wrong in abuse, not just child at that, I would orbid him entering your home.

CaptHowdy 1

Thursday 13 August 2020 20:51

What kind of asshole thinks OP or their autistic son deserve that treatment?

Hugball 22

Thursday 13 August 2020 20:59

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Apsalar 8

Thursday 13 August 2020 21:01

The OP never mentioned the son being aggressive and assaulting visitors, he HATES unannounced visitors, not hits.

bl3ur0z3 17

Thursday 13 August 2020 22:05

I hope you never have autistic kids. You know what those treatments consist of? Extreme patience and an understanding that sometimes you just have to ride out the storm.

TxKitten 8

Friday 14 August 2020 4:10

There are different levels of Autism. And yes, Autistic children can be taught some things. Some things they will not grasp nor can they control. Some children will learn some things while other children will not. Your comment shows that you have no real experience with autistic children and you don't know what you are talking about. A lot of Autistic children need a very specific routine for some things, no amount of "teaching" will completely fix every issue, and some things will get better as the child ages.

JoanT 11

Friday 14 August 2020 9:25

Obviously she couldn’t get him to the repair shop that day so she has to wait till next week... what do you mean just fix a kid you should not procreate 🤦🏽‍♀️

timinator5000 28

Friday 14 August 2020 13:19

Don't have kids. Even if they come out "normal " in your mind, you clearly don't know how to empathize with people. Meds Don't fix everything and to be honest, there isn't anything To fix. Yes I'm a father with an autistic daughter.

Arkangel.Artemis 10

Sunday 6 September 2020 12:40

There is no cure for autism. Seriously? what have you been smoking.

bl3ur0z3 17

Thursday 13 August 2020 21:33

Unannounced visitors should be chased off the property with sticks and other injurous objects until they learn to respect the people, including children, upon whom's homes they are intruding.

princess_stabitty 20

Thursday 13 August 2020 22:19

Your FIL should also know that wild and hungry dogs should be set upon uninvited and unannounced "guests" until they grow some manners and actually come over only when invited and expected...

tounces7 27

Thursday 13 August 2020 23:10

That's a feature of autism? I thought EVERYONE hated visitors without warning?

bl3ur0z3 17

Friday 14 August 2020 2:17

A feature of autism is being unable to handle unexpected events.

icalledhisname 12

Friday 14 August 2020 3:28

Ugh, I so feel for you. My daughter is autistic and she needs to know ahead of time everything we do or she melts down. I’m sorry you deal with this!

TxKitten 8

Friday 14 August 2020 3:43

Your husband needs to tell his father that his parenting "advice" is unwanted and unwelcome. And tell him if he ever speaks that way about your son again he will be unwelcome there. AND he will not be admitted without a heads up call. regardless of your situation with your son, dropping by unannounced is just rude.