Guilt by association

By Never Too Old - 01/08/2022 19:00 - United States

Today, my dad has officially started testing to find out if he is autistic. I'm happy for him defying the "too old" stigma; however, the problem is that I am autistic as well, and my dad can be a rather unpleasant person at times, so I'm afraid he'll give the disorder a bad name and make both of our lives worse. FML
I agree, your life sucks 820
You deserved it 155

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I am autistic too. It just means we think differently than the neurotypical person. That said. Here are some skills that help me. My dad’s issues are not my issues. It means don’t classify yourself with your dad. I’ve known plenty that are sweeter than honey and I’ve known plenty that love being @$$#013$. Yes they give autism a bad name and so do killers and worse serial killers. Maybe your dad had a parent or mentor who told him he’s an ah in the most abusive way possible and as a defensive response and coping mechanism he went with it. I’m not a licensed therapist and due to going through multiple deaths at a young age and losing people to cancer and five divorces I’ve been through more therapy than most people. All of these therapies have helped me. I have used each at least once even if it is in an unofficial capacity. DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy, focuses on emotions); CBT (Cognitive Behavior Therapy focuses on thoughts and judgements); ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy focuses on acceptance, following through and committing something through mindfulness); CFT (Compassion Focused Therapy focuses on being kind towards yourself and others through mindfulness). I hope this creates an edge on your business. Good luck. Start with DBT because it is the basis of most therapies listed.

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The only people giving autism a bad name are the ones insisting that it's a disease...

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I am autistic too. It just means we think differently than the neurotypical person. That said. Here are some skills that help me. My dad’s issues are not my issues. It means don’t classify yourself with your dad. I’ve known plenty that are sweeter than honey and I’ve known plenty that love being @$$#013$. Yes they give autism a bad name and so do killers and worse serial killers. Maybe your dad had a parent or mentor who told him he’s an ah in the most abusive way possible and as a defensive response and coping mechanism he went with it. I’m not a licensed therapist and due to going through multiple deaths at a young age and losing people to cancer and five divorces I’ve been through more therapy than most people. All of these therapies have helped me. I have used each at least once even if it is in an unofficial capacity. DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy, focuses on emotions); CBT (Cognitive Behavior Therapy focuses on thoughts and judgements); ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy focuses on acceptance, following through and committing something through mindfulness); CFT (Compassion Focused Therapy focuses on being kind towards yourself and others through mindfulness). I hope this creates an edge on your business. Good luck. Start with DBT because it is the basis of most therapies listed.

Abbusser 12

The only people giving autism a bad name are the ones insisting that it's a disease...