By Anonymous - 01/07/2020 20:08
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Is your fiance a prankster or is he just trying to sabotage the wedding because he changed his mind? You should try and ask about that before you both make a mistake that will ruin your lives. I'm really sorry, OP.
It's possible that the answer is neither and the OP may find out that the Finance had it "Tie-dyed to match our new theme" because the Fiance has actually adjusted the theme and made sure the bride fit in to it. I've read and heard multiple stories about partners (and family members) changing wedding details to suit what they want behind the brides back because they either don't think the brideand/or know based on the bride saying no that the bride will accept the things they want. There is a push in the world that it is "The brides day" when it really isn't. It's the couples days but so often people go "What the bride wants the bride should get, it's her day make her feel like a princess" . So perhaps the guy wants to get married but he didn't want to deal with a bridezilla planner. Not saying that excuses it, just saying that it may not be a case of joking or trying to break up with the bride but simply had his own plan for what he wanted and failed to compromise.
It's her dress. She should have the final say in what she will wear. I wouldn't pay for a ruined dress, and I'd seriously consider postponing until I get a suitable dress then make sure the shop doesn't change anything about my dress without my specific say so. He can do that to his suit, but leave my dress out of it.
You're going to look so beautiful! I'm tired of boring white. And let's get real -- who's a virgin these days? You'll be able to rock at the reception because if people spill on you, no one will be the wiser.
If it is hideous, but you absolutely love the dress otherwise, maybe you can salvage it with elaborate lace, beading, rhinestones, or tulle. If it is not a one-of-a -kind then I would repurchase. If not affordable and/or available, maybe rent a similar design. I don’t know your financial situation or how big the wedding is, but I assume it cannot be postponed on a moments notice. I’m sorry that happened, but I like to believe in the best of people and I assume your future husband thought the seamstress would call you before proceeding and you both would get a good laugh out of it and say something along the lines of “could you imagine if she actually did that, I would have panicked”. However since it did happen, now would be the time to be real creative in a bad situation. I do not know how dyeing works but maybe it is reversible if the colors are pale. Im sorry OP but good luck and know that if nothing else, it will be a story that never gets old and becomes more funny as time goes on. I wish you a future of happiness.