She probably has some unresolved, underlying issues that she is working through. She may fantasize about and be attracted to sexual freedom, but is terrified of the social stigma and perceptions that come with it. She has probably been judged in the past and the dirty talk touched on a pain she still has deep inside her, regardless of her fantasies. OP, you did nothing wrong. I’m not a psychologist (although I have experience going to one. Can you tell? Haha) but my recommendation is to be kind, gentle, and supportive with your wife and let her know you are there for her and not to judges at all. She may also want to talk to a professional about her issues. She could come away happier and with a newfound sexual freedom that may improve both your sex lives in ways you could never imagine.

"It's a trap!!" -Admiral Akbar Be careful what your wife asks for. You have to be strategic. Here are the correct answers: Are you interested in swinging/threesomes? NO. Do these pants make my butt look fat? NO. Do you think my sister is pretty? NO, UGLY. These have to be reflex replies even if you value honesty and integrity.

its funner talking that way🤷

She has no idea what she wants at all ever does she?

Looks like she needs some kindness and understanding... Work on your couple's communication? Once you both are intimate enough to talk about your respective traumas and understand each other, you can only grow closer and sex gets better.