By mortenp - 22/09/2011 04:44 - United States
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I know what you're talking about. I also have a classmate who is invisible. I mean, he really is invisible! It was in the middle of the semester that I found out he's my classmate! He attended every class but we never realized he's our classmate! He NEVER talked. I didn't hear his voice even once. I can't blame the students for not knowing him.
33- I agree, it is really sad :( 36- Not everyone CHOOSES to be "invisible" and not everyone is happy with having no friends and not having anyone even know their name. Some people are just so cripplingly shy that they can't open up, or have other problems like an anxiety disorder that makes it impossible to talk to people. And it's people like you who assume they're happy being lonely without even giving them a chance that just make everything worse.
Damn, there's a difference between not caring about being popular and no one knowing your name. Hate to break it to you, but we're social animals; at some level EVERYONE wants to have friends. You can say you don't mind being alone, and maybe it's true, and you really think that way, but it's not normal, and while I don't mean to judge, it's not healthy. Having people to talk to and go through stuff with is a huge part of mental health, so everyone should really try to open up, and make some friends. I was really quiet in school, and at the time I really thought it didn't bother me, but my decision to open up and be friendly in college was one of the best I ever made.
60: No I have MARRIED, NICE, LEGAL parents who still live together! I don't why it's such a big deal in western countries to be popular. We don't have the word "bully" in our language. Everyone is friendly and if a person is shy and quiet, it doesn't change our opinion about him/her.
63, I wish it were like that everywhere. The amount of suicides which occur due to bullying is ridiculous. And for what? That's the one thing I don't understand about bullies. What do they get out of it? Does it make then feel good that the kid they just pushed now hates his life, or the kid they kick or spit on each day is planing to kill himself? People need to learn some respect before they are allowed into society.
Some people genuinely are antisocial and want to keep it that way. My fiance's brother is like that. He's 5 months younger than I am, but it seems like 5 years. The only friends he has in this world are his dog and his brother (my fiancé). He spends all his free time at home where he lives with his parents (he's 22) playing video games or hanging out with his mom. He just got a job 3 months ago at the grocery store and hates having to interact with people. He just genuinely hates people and wants nothing to do with them. He hated me for about a year because I was an "outsider" coming into the family. He eventually got over it since I've been here long enough, but still. Some people just hate people.
Same here 24. There was this pair of really shy/quiet twins, and neither would do anything but sleep/read. One of them was in my class for an entire year in one of my classes and I never even knew he was there until someone pointed it out about 3/4 way through the year. But honestly, shy people sh
Exactly. Sometimes shy people become really annoying. I once had to do a project with the shyest girl in class, so I was trying to be nice, I asked her she could pick the part first, and when I asked her what section she wanted to do she was like 'I don't know' so I asked if there was anything she k
Brittany? Morgan? Laura? Gabby? 19-your comment was pointless and made no sense.
Motivated by greed and gluttony, why not take some genuine interest in a person instead of being nice to them for a piece of cake Ydi Hopefully you attempted to get to know her afterwards, or at the very least your own classmates name
Um, you realize she was already sharing the cake, right? It's not like OP was like, "I really want some cake... I know! I'll pretend I care and get everyone to sing so I can have some!" Did you ever consider he just wanted to thank her for the cake by getting everyone to sing? Try not to be so judgmental.
I'm not going YDI on this one, because 1) they could go to a massive school where you never know everyone in your grade, and 2) if stylistically she's polar opposite of OP there would be no reason to ever say more than a few passing words to each other. I'm not saying people from totally different social circles can't be friends, but typically you won't have all that much in common. For example. You don't see many goth chicks hanging out with the cheerleaders because they have little in common.
101 well that's all well and good for you but not everyone does. My best friend in high school couldn't even name half the people in his class of 500. I had 92 in my graduating class and I knew everyone's name but there were still 2-3 that I'd never spoken a single word to. Halfway through my sophomore year I met a girl who I thought was a freshman since I'd never seen her before. She'd been in my grade since the beginning of the year. Going back in my head I forgot the names of a number of people I graduated with, and I graduated in 2008. So not everyone knows everyone in their grade. That's cool that you do, but not everyone does.
I "graduated" with 60 people in my class. I did know their names like there were only 60 of them but there were people I'd barely had a conversation with. In six years! It's crazy. I do think OP should have made an effort for such a kind girl but I really hope they will now and not just act friendly when she has food.