By Who1s269 - 03/05/2013 12:13 - United States
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I can't be bothered to run on a treadmill. It is boring as hell, but mostly I just can't stand running. What is the saying? 'I don't trust joggers, they're the ones that are always finding the dead bodies. Just saying.'. And before you come back with I am overweight and need to workout, nope, in shape, 6 pack, eat healthy when I remember, haaaateee exercising. I get mine chasing 2 kids, 3 dogs and running from college and to kids school etc.possibly though, OP and the wife need to sit down and discuss what is missing in their sex life and what they want or need, what they want to explore. Sex should be an adventure with your partner not a chore, see what you two may want to try together...you may be pleasantly surprised.
#10, I just knew what the fate of your comment would be. If the wife so blatantly tells her husband that sex with him is a chore, why would he not want to take his show to a more appreciative audience? The down-thumb swarm completely ignores the fact of how hurtful was to the OP. So, while your solution may be justifiable and effective, it would be unpopular with this bunch.
Justifiable and effective? No, neither. He doesn't 'deserve' to have an affair just because she doesn't enjoy sex - which could also be his fault. Neither will it be effective, since his wife will still not enjoy sex more. Yes, it was hurtful to the OP, of course. But how do you expect to work on a relationship without telling what is wrong? I know plenty of women that have sex every once in a while even when they don't feel like it, just to satisfy their boyfriends. But if that becomes a regular thing, it's understandable they don't feel up for sex anymore at all. How about you accept sex being 'boring', and try making it better for you. Remember: going in and out usually doesn't do much for her. If that's all you're doing, you have a shitload of options left... Cheating is the easy way out, and if you resort to that you're nothing but a pussy.
#55, just like all of the mindless down-thumbers, you completely ignore or excuse the wife's extremely abusive comment to the OP. A wife who speaks that way to her husband can expect to be cheated on or dumped altogether. Regardless of the problem, the wife could have addressed the issue in a less emasculating and hurtful way. As far as the effectiveness is concerned, I was talking about for the OP. The wife can go fuck herself!
89- If he wants her to know how much her words hurt, he can man-up and tell her. I think it would be quite immature and ridiculous if OP had an affair just to send a message. These issues can always be sorted out, there's really no need to cheat! And sex isn't everything in a relationship anyway, I feel like tons of people assume that if you have great sex your relationship is an automatic sucess. A good relationship is much more than that.
Cheating is never the answer and makes the situation worse. Doesn't matter if kids are there or not, in fact cheating when you have kids makes it much much worse. If he doesn't like what she said, than he needs to work it out and talk with her to fix it, or leave if he's unhappy. But he is not a man if he cheats. he is a coward if he pulls such an immature act just because his pride was a little hurt by her honesty.
89 - two wrongs don't make a right. Her comment was uncalled for, stupid to say and honestly if I were OP, I'd be pretty pissed with her for saying it. Still, just because someone hurts or disappoints you in a relationship doesn't make it ok to go cheat or dump the person outright. What ever happened to talking things out, which is what two people in a committed relationship should do?
I agree with perdix, this fat loser that is OP's wife is overweight, with no signs of changing that, and shes not giving sexual attention to OP. Seems like his choices are to either split up with her, or find sexual attention elsewhere. Still wrong, but understandable considering his wife is neglecting him and herself like that.
An affair is not the solution. Have you ever thought of trying to fix the problem whatever it may be? People like you make me sick.