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its your kid . tell him to get over it , you're the one that had the baby and not him .
It's not an uncommon feeling, I'm guessing the OPs husband is just having trouble explaining his emotions. He probably feels like his kid doesn't need him since she's breast feeding, and his wife doesn't need him for anything other than paying the bills, since she's busy with the kid. Men get left out with new babies.
Wow, your husband needs some seriously intensive counseling. That is not normal, your man should be 100% supportive of you AND your newborn..breastfeeding is a beautiful thing. If your husband can't see that, (even after the counseling) then I would pack his shit and tell him "adiós!".
172- if we're going to get technical here than technically it is her kid. By law if she was taken to court by her husband she would be given full custody due to his lack of thinking of the babies needs over his own. Yes the baby wouldn't be born without his sperm but in no way on this earth would that baby be born without the mother. No way in hell. It's her baby over his unless he magically popped the baby from his ass.
224: That's a fucked up attitude; babies are people not property. Yes mothers carry around the gestating fetus for nine months, but I refuse to believe that it automatically makes the mother "more important" or a better parent than the father would be--there are tons of bad mothers and just as many great fathers. The baby deserves the right to his father as much as to his mother; saying otherwise is nothing less than blatant sexism against men.
There is no need to be rude. Their brain is not little and I think it is functioning fine. Youcant say that the mother has more rights over the child because she carried him. You pointed out the baby wouldn't be born without the man's sperm but then just because she carried him she has more rights than the father? Thats not right. Both parents have equal say in the situation; however, her husband needs to understand that there are many benefits to breast feeding; not that he's the woman's baby and she can do whatever she wants. And by the way, the mother does not always get custody over the child because she carried them. My boyfriend and his sister lives with their FATHER. HE had full custody of the children. They could only see their mother every other weekend. The court doesn't decide where a child lives because, "oh well she carried them for nine months! She deserves them!" it depends on where he children will have a better life. Sorry for my long response, your logic just frustrates me.
Am I the only one that understands Jillybee's(sp?) point? If it happened to go to court, the mother would most likely be awarded custody because the father was putting his selfishness before the core needs of the child. The purpose of breasts are to feed the child. The sexual side of breasts is just a perk or, depending on the individual, a nuisance. Either way, OPs husband is being a childish douche who needs a large dose of STFU with a side order of intensive counseling.
292- thank you! 397- I never once said the mother is more important. Both parents have equal importance. I'm stating that the mother in THIS SITUATION is more important because she is putting the baby first and not being selfish unlike the father who put his wants before the baby's needs. So you should really read more closely and stop putting words in my mouth. I apologize for referring to your intelligence negatively but you need to read more carefully and not assume things.
Can we at least agree that, in OP's case, the father is a self-centered fucknut and that the mother seems to be the more competent parent IN THIS PARTICULAR CASE? You really can't make generalizations. There are good and bad examples of both mothers and fathers out there.
Breastfeeding is a wonderful thing that really does need to become more normalized in the US. I love the question of where are your baby bottles. Ummm I don't have any. I feed my baby (3 months old) on demand any where any time and theres always enough at the right temp. It's great not having to carry a huge diaper bag either. A few cloth diapers and cloth wipes in a wet bag and we are out the door :) my daughter is allergic to disposables so we use cloth :) its actually a lot of fun. To be honest though my husband and my son were both a bit jealous of my daughter. My son was upset she ate all the time because it meant less cuddle time for him and my husband didn't like that she and I slept in the recliner most nights because she ate all night so it was the only way I got any sleep so he and I didn't get any cuddle time. Although it is funny when we have adult time and he grabs them and gets sprayed lol. I tease him about wasting the milk :)
Somehow I think he's either the stupidest guy on earth or he's joking.
That's wrong.. You should consider seeing a counselor with him if he doesn't listen to your reasons about how that is completely ridiculous.
Please do this. I might be overly sensitive to these types of things but I know full well how bad this can get. It's perfectly normal for a husband to be a bit jealous of the baby since you are usually giving it all of your time, care, and attention. It is NOT normal for a husband to forbid his son to breastfeed because of said jealousy. This can go wrong in so many ways; please advise him that either he seeks counseling or another place to stay.