By anonymous - 02/09/2011 22:02 - United States
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Adopt, simple as that. As much as I understand the want to actually give birth to your own child, it may be the only answer. There are lots of children and babies in need of a good and stable home. Or, of your friend really doesn't want to keep her baby, ask if you could adopt hers.
It's not fated yet sweetheart. The time will come. I feel so sad reading your post. I'll pray that everything will turn out great for you. You seem like you would be a great mum. And I'm definitely sure you'll appreciate the gift of God when you receive it. There are some people in this world who has the luxury of having babies. And they do not take care of their kids well. It saddens me. These kids are like a legacy. They should be taken care of well and not neglected. You'll be fine dear OP :) I know you will.
One of my (ex)co-workers adopted two kids from Ethiopia a year or so ago. It took her over two years to get the adoption done and a couple hundred thousand dollars (she had to fly out there numerous times). She was doing ALOT of fundraising. Im all for adoption, but the process is a long, expensive one. And she told me it's typically cheaper to adopt outside the country. I don't wanna know how expensive it is to adopt in the US! Good luck OP, when the time comes for you to have a baby, the opportunity will arise suddenly =)
Some people want to have the experiance of carrying the baby, getting the ultra sounds, and feeling the kicking and such. It's a wonderful experiance. I'm 33 and I've been trying for 6 years. 2 invitro's so far and I got pregnant with twins but lost them last minute. When you've come so close to having your own child sometimes even adopting doesn't cut it. Adopting is good for some people. Im sure OP would agree with me when I say I want my baby to look like me or my husband.
#305, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. That's terrible. I really hope that it all works out for the best with you and your husband. And #324, completely agreed. It's so unfortunate that there are so many people who don't want children, or who don't deserve children, are popping them out constantly, and then certain people who want them so bad, more than anyone, and actually deserve them and can take care of them, can't have them. It's a sad sad reality.
Wow, the intelligence level in this thread amazes me. Where the hell did you get welfare queen out of his post? And even though I'm male I can understand OP's pretty down about this, how come no one else seems to? Of course she can adopt, I'm sure she's already thought about it, but it's obviously not the same.
Some jokes you justt don't make. What if your mother died and people started joking about that, how would make you feel. Empathy people please. Take someone's pain into account before you start making jokes. And this is a serious pain which, I hope, you will never have to feel.
Hey, everyone is entitled to an opinion, mine comes from years and years of dealing with ignorant freeloaders that work the system. It's like you have to be incredibly stupid and lazy, and it flips their baby factory switch on. I can appreciate a joke... If it's funny. Some things you just don't joke about.
That is so cruel. I am really really sorry for you. I wish you all the strength you need!
I'm pregnant right now and I know that it sounds ridiculous to spend that much to have your own baby, but the feeling is incredible. It's priceless. There are so many people who don't realize how lucky they are to be able to concieve and have an abortion. It's sad...
I understand that. I was saying that if you can't have children, you should put the child up for adoption so that someone who's unable to have children will be able to have the opportunity. I know people who are wanting to adopt and it's not as easy as some people think.
You said that if you weren't financially ready to have children and got pregnant that instead of an abortion you should offer it up for adoption. I understood fine, I was saying that there are already thousands of kids who need homes, I really don't think people should be adding to that.
'I was saying that if you can't have children, you should put the child up for adoption so that someone who's unable to have children will be able to have the opportunity.' Why? Firstly, there are already enough children in the world who desperately hope they once will be adopted. Secondly, how do you dare to tell people that they shouldn't have an abortion, but adopt their child instead? I think that adoption is the most difficult thing a mother can do. She will carry her child for 9 months, she will endure all the pain (headaches, morning sickness, mood swings...and worse) and a special band will grow between her and the child. Then she need to give birth to that child (which is still not a pleasant thing to do) and afterwards, other people will be the parents. Oh, and don't forget that chances are high that this (maybe unwanted) child will evidentally search his real parents. Fuck you, if people absolutely don't want a child, then they have every right to abort it.