Love: Today, my boyfriend of 3 years announced that he is not ready...

By Agata - 21/12/2009 16:15 - United States

Today, my boyfriend of 3 years announced that he is not ready for marriage, and won’t be for 'at least' another 2 years. Of course he waited to tell me this 2 days after he had proposed to me in front of hundreds of people, I said yes, and we announced it to all our family members and friends. FML

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By ollie_ollivia - 11/07/2009 23:11 - United States

Today, my boyfriend of two years proposed to me. Less than two minutes later, he decided he wasn't ready for the commitment. After I had already said yes. FML

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By Anonymous - 29/05/2013 05:28 - United States - Anchorage

Today, I told my boyfriend of ten months that I'm not ready for marriage. A few hours later he proposed at my grandma's 85th birthday party. She cried when I said no. FML

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By cowgurl91 - 13/01/2010 21:40 - France

Today, I found out that my boyfriend was going to propose to me about three months ago. I was completely surprised and asked why he didn't. At that time, I had told him to stop looking at me like that and go buy me some damn tacos. I was 2 months pregnant then. Now he wants to wait a couple of years. FML

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That's nice

By Anonymous - 04/06/2021 18:01 - United States - Angier

Today, I told my boyfriend of 3 years that I wanted to marry him someday. His response was, "Oh, OK, thanks." FML

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Emotional rollercoaster

By Anonymous - 29/06/2023 14:00 - United States - Greeley

Today, my boyfriend of four years proposed to me and I said yes. A few hours later, I found out he's been talking to multiple other girls for about three months. FML

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This ain't gonna end well

By Anonymous - 13/09/2019 12:04

Today, my partner of 5 years and I sat down to talk because I expressed hope for a proposal in near future. He instead believed that we should wait, and talk about a potential future for us in another two years. FML

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Congrats?

By KortniiE - 23/03/2021 20:01

Today, my boyfriend of 3 years proposed without a ring. He told me he would get it once his divorce papers are final. I didn't know he was married. FML

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Take the hints

By Unwanted - 03/11/2015 19:10 - Austria

Today, my boyfriend declared he doesn't feel ready to move in with me for at least "some more years". We have already been together for five years. When he bought an apartment one year ago, he kept it a secret for three months. Maybe I should learn to take a hint. Or several hints. FML

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By rissa5214 - 26/07/2015 18:20 - United States - Stoughton

Today, I told my boyfriend of three years that I wanted to get married and have a child within the next five years. He responded by packing up my things and showing me the door. FML

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Too much pressure

By Anonymous - 25/03/2022 17:00 - United States - Morganville

Today, I told my boyfriend of two years that I wanted to get married eventually, and there's no way to talk me out of it. He broke up with me immediately. FML

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InstaKarma 0

Monday 21 December 2009 20:13

Maybe he is just feeling overwhelmed by the new stage your relationship has progressed to. Either way, if you two actually love each other, talk about it and maybe just have a long engagement. FYL because that is a hell of a let down.

caticaticati 3

Monday 21 December 2009 20:22

I've known people who were engaged for a year or two before the wedding... it takes time to plan that shit and find the money for it. I wouldn't be surprised if my boyfriend proposes while we're in college and then we wait to actually get married until we've both graduated.

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TheDrageisha 0

Tuesday 22 December 2009 1:51

he should have prefaced the proposal with telling you he wanted a long engagement. he just wanted to trap you with the ring. give it back, continue dating him and others.

BritishHobo 0

Tuesday 22 December 2009 1:57

Okay, yeah, two years is a normal amount of time to just be engaged, but if you're not ready for marriage, don't propose! He says 'at least' which means he still isn't even totally sure. So why propose at all? Unless you begged and begged until he felt forced to. In which case leave him for someone less spineless.

NotNegativeNews 0

Wednesday 23 December 2009 1:51

I don't think 'at least' does mean he's not totally sure. He's meaning he wants to be engaged to her, to promise that they'll get married. But that the actual wedding/marriage won't occur for at least a few years. It means he's not setting a date for the wedding, not that he's not sure he won't want to marry her.

Connkidd 0

Tuesday 22 December 2009 2:33

what a dumbass dickface

FerrariCake 2

Tuesday 22 December 2009 2:49

Your boyfriend is the kind of person who should not be smoking marijuana. It's ok for most people, but for some, like your boyfriend, it can have very bizarre side effects. Like making him think he should propose to you and announce your engagement to the family. You should know better... keep him away from the mighty weed.

dreadlocks 7

Tuesday 22 December 2009 3:26

#43 you are ******* retarded

ILYSEN10RS 0

Tuesday 22 December 2009 3:19

long engagements FTW.

avoidthegirl 6

Tuesday 22 December 2009 3:32

Are you serious? TWO YEARS IS NORMAL TO YOU? **** that. I'm waiting a year and a half because we don't have the money to do a nice wedding right now and that's hell enough as it is.

somepartsareme 0

Tuesday 22 December 2009 3:34

@46 Oh no! Someone was offended by a joke! *gasp* ON THE INTERNET!

marc_with_a_c 3

Tuesday 22 December 2009 3:42

wow he's an idiot.. why propose if he's not ready yet.. what's the point in being engaged for years.. seriously you propose when you're ready.

HunterKid 0

Tuesday 22 December 2009 3:56

Honestly.. I'm a 16 yr old idiot so I don't know much. But I think he really loves you. He was crazy enough to do what he did. But I hear every man get's cold feet. You'll get down that aisle one day though hang in there. :)

catastrophicsock 0

Tuesday 22 December 2009 6:13

Yeah, you don't know much. Chances are he's cheating. Or she MADE him propose.

mmaire 0

Tuesday 22 December 2009 4:16

I think this is the sort of thing that should be discussed BEFORE the proposal. My boyfriend KNOWS that I don't want to be engaged for more than a year and don't want to plan a wedding while I'm in lawschool. I know he wants at least a year to settle into his job. BECAUSE WE TALK ABOUT IMPORTANT THINGS WE WANT. If you're going to get engaged, everyone better be on the same page. There's a difference between wanting a long engagement and being unready for marriage. I don't want a ring until he is DEAD SURE he wants to marry me, sure enough that we start planning the thing and get it done. I don't think that's too much to ask for - sure, if you want to take your sweet time planning, go for it, but don't hang around for a 'we'll see.' I'd take the ring and give it back to him. Continue dating, if you really think he just needs time, but don't consent to an open-ended engagement.