Go. Show him he doesn’t have control anymore. Or just give a speech. How much you love your sister and how well you know the groom. Then list all the horrible things he did to the whole room.

33 year old Male still suffering from bullying encounters 15 years ago, man up pussy. What kind of a grown man are you?

Sometimes you have to remove yourself from toxic situations- especially if you’re not getting support from your parents. Maybe time for a move?

You can either embrace the "****'em all" mentality that your screen name implies, or you can maintain grudges... You cannot have both. You choose where your value you lies. You choose where the power in your life is. Many people do not like this reality and they argue against it because they cannot control their initial feelings (aka the anxiety reaction you feel) but the reality is, if the medication is effective treatment, you'd have been more than able to attend the wedding and honor your sister as your sister. You are not the one marrying him, you're not attending the wedding on his behalf. You are choosing to hold a person accountable for someone they were 15 years ago; a lot of things can change in that amount of time. While I understand having emotional PTSD, we all have that to a certain extent (and some more severe than others), one can presume you're at least 30 or so, and completely capable of managing yourself for a few hours. For all you know, you just robbed yourself the ability to obtain the closure and apology that you needed for emotional wellness, which ultimately resulted in MORE emotional baggage, suffering and drama. You continue to empower the bully. It's hard to say whether you deserve it or not, because to know that we'd have to know how you discussed it, but it certainly sounds like you approached this selfishly... I'd say you deserve the cold shoulder treatment for putting your inability to handle your emotional wellness over your sister's wedding. (yes I know this is an essay) I mean, c'mon... The wedding day is NOT the day to make a stand about her choice. You've had the entire time they were dating to have the discussion about the past with your sister, to try and make amends with her to-be-husband, to communicate whatever it is that you needed. Presumably, you did not. This is on you man, no one else.

I recommend that you go anyway. Be a grown man and realize there will be bullies everywhere and you cannot hope to avoid them all. You will never be able to avoid him, after all. Also, not going might make him bully you more, for being an incredibly bad brother. As well as pissing everyone else off, for the bad reason you are using.

Take your pills, go to the wedding, and make a speech. Preferably at the "If anyone knows why these people may not be joined in matrimony, speak now or forever hold your peace" bit, if they have that where you are.

Wow. Did your family know this guy bullied you relentlessly? Do they know how bad it is even now? What kind of woman marries her sibling's bully? It's too bad you couldn't have gone to the wedding and outed him as a bully, and you don't want him in your family. And chances are he will abuse your sister; it's just a matter of time.

You were right in not going. Why your fucktard sister married a useless shitbag goes beyond common sense. Why make yourself crazy for your sister that has shitty taste in men. Your family sucks, They are taking sides (his). All these people telling you to be the better are idiots. You are suffering from PTSD. There is no need to put yourself thru more crap just to make your sister happy. If you didn't want to go because of something petty I would have said get over it... But you did the right thing... Bullies will always be bullies.

Go anyway and if he come near you break his jaw and hate **** him with a beer bottle. I no longer have any fear for my old high school bullies (5 years of mma) but hate? Oh I have lots of that. Don’t really give a ***** **** about him growing up or not.

You have to suck it up and go to the wedding for your family’s sake. Avoid the bully.