By Anonymous - 07/10/2011 09:07 - Australia

Today, my boyfriend asked my father for permission to marry me. My father refused, on the basis that I'm the only person in the house with a job, and if I leave he will have to start looking for work. My boyfriend won't marry me without his permission, and my lazy father won't change his mind. FML
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Omg this is so stupid. Your boyfriend should man up!! And your fathers a selfish piece of crap!

Just leave make your lazy father get a job,


I'm to lazy to write a good comment

perdix 29

And too lazy to put the second O in "too."

Just explain to your dad that you're going to do it anyways so he should start looking, then tell your boyfriend that your dad is lazy and explain the situation to him.

27 she can't very well marry someone who doesn't want to marry her without the fathers blessing

I'm saying that she could tell her dad they're getting married so he will look for a job, even if they don't get married until he has one.

Asking parents for permission is stupid; it's implying that the daughter is property. It's up to her, not her dad.

Omg this is so stupid. Your boyfriend should man up!! And your fathers a selfish piece of crap!

Your photo can be interpreted so many different ways....

Ali_Br_fml 33

Or just move in with your boyfriend so he has no one to pay his bills, then he won't have that excuse anymore. He doesn't need to ask your father's permission for you to move in. (and since you guys were going to get married, and move in together anyway, it's just putting things a little backwards) Good Luck OP, and Congrats!!!

1. She's blowing him. 2. She's tying his shoes. 3. ?????? 4. Profit!!

Caramelox 3

Don't live with your dad anymore?

Yea, just leave

Your probably under 18 if he needs your dads permission.

151- it's a old custom ask dad for permission to marry daughter.

yeah just tell him you aren't gonna give him any more money

SimpleMinds_fml 7

Just some advice. Don't ask the dad for permission. Most girls I know say it's stupid or demeaning to ask because it makes it seem like the father has control and can tell/give away his daughter at will. IMO don't ask the dad.

I disagree, 182. I'll just give my two cents. Speaking with the father or mother or both is just a tradition. It's a way of letting them know of your intention. You don't have to do it, but I think it's kind of a respect thing. Seeing as most people getting married are adults, they are at legal liberty to make their own decisions so the dad usually gives approval, even if he doesn't like the guy a whole lot. Most people are going to marry anyway. I only heard of one case where a dad said no. He just advised the guy to wait bc they'd only been dating two months. So they waited and married eventually.

9 - I somehow see it in one interpretation.

Her father is beyond selfish; he's a user, and he's financially abusing his daughter. Where is the mom? Exactly how many people are sponging off this one woman? You always hear about the young people who had to move back in with dear old mom & dad due to the bad economy. This post makes me wonder how many dear old moms & dads don't want them to leave!

just refuse to pay the bills

Just quit your job

fatcow282 8

I think its respecful to the father srry op that yours is a lazy tool who takes advantage of you and i would just leave. Prob solved.

bargarlm 2

Well that sucks. FYL OP tell your dad to get a job

Just leave make your lazy father get a job,

itsame0987 18

My thoughts exactly.

Move out. If you're old enough to get married, then you're old enough to move out

You can't know that's she is still living with her dad. The tradition of asking the father's permission for the daughter's hand in marriage has nothing to do with where she lives. However, it's an old, demeaning tradition that's not necessary anymore and the boyfriend shouldn't have bothered in the first place.

Did you read the FML? Of course she lives with the father! Why else would he call her the only moneymaker of the house? If she didn't live with her family, why would he care about how much money she makes? Are you high or were you just trying to find any place to espouse your women's rights crap?

it is not a demeaning tradition. it is meant to show respect for the family of the bride. and you're dumb. the fml states she's the household moneymaker. dummy

Exactly! It's really not "asking permission". Two adults are free to do whatever they want. Maybe it is different where OP is from, but around here, it's a way for the guy to let the parents know of his intentions and I think it's just a way to show your respect and appreciation to the parents. Fathers rarely say no unless they have their kids on a leash like OP is (I'm assuming she's paying rent for this deadbeat) sometimes they may offer advice, like telling you to wait a bit longer. These feminist extremists need to get a grip. It is not demeaning, chill out.

shove the classifieds up his ignorant ass

hahaha coltsrock, they suck this year. thats what happens when you depend so heavily on one player.

this is FML, not ESPN? And **** off. I live in Wisconsin. I have the Packers to fall back on.

It's interesting that to move out is the one most prevalent answer. I know that the dad is being uncommonly selfish, but if this happened to me and I tried to move out, my dad would guilt trip me about how he supported me throughout my life etc and that I'm ungrateful. Especially being Chinese, where there is a huge emphasis on filial obedience...I don't know what I could do to extricate myself from this situation. I hope the OP will pull through though!

Just leave home and tell ur lazy dad to f- a tree, u r old enough to move out

JurassicHole 5

True. But type better please.

Maybe he thinks it's important to have the parents' permission and blessings. Cause personally I feel that way too. It's all about upbringing, culture and personal opinion.

usnwife 18

I admire guys who ask for the fathers blessing out if respect, but not permission. I want my son to grow up and be respectful enough to do that, but still be a man and put his girlfriend first. And I want my daughter to find a guy who respects us enough to ask for our blessing - which I will give happily if he is man enough to do, but I know it's up to my daughter not us, and ad long as she's happy I am too

Llama_Face89 33

That's one I haven't heard before. I winder how one would go about ******* a tree...

Llama_Face89 33


Tell your boyfriend that you are not a piece of property and that if he wants to marry you than you are the only person whose opinion matters.

hatepineapple 14

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Show it anyway

If the boyfriend is an alcoholic or a drug abuser and it is an issue couldn't the OP tell them to clean their shit up?

I would downvote the crap out of you, but unfortunately my screen isn't long enough!

StormGirl142 24

Move out, so his lazy ass has to get a job.

This might be just me, but you look like Amy Adams.

how do you live in the US three times after Carolina? Jw... o.o

StormGirl142 24

I have never heard that. Lol. And I have no clue. I set this up from my phone, so that may have something to do with it.

That's terrible :/ Tell him you quit your job?

Why don't you quit your job!!!!

l_alice_l 0

You are the only one in the house with a job, meaning you can feed at least two people(you and your father). Why the hell aren't you moving out? You are more than capable of sustaining yourself. Also, people should stop bashing her boyfriend. He is just being considerate of her [stupid] family's wishes. He is taking it to far, but it's still not his fault.

He's not being considerate, he's being A moron.

Random capitalization Is tHe BesT KnoW WHat I MeAn.

Your the moron ^^

Please don't call others morons with improper grammar in the insult. It will only make you stupid as well