By maybe if i was paid like them i would - 14/08/2015 22:42 - United States - Houston
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I think you can blame porn if people are being exposed to it before they've properly developed their sexual identity. I'm not saying porn is inherently wrong or anything like that, but I don't think it's particularly healthy if your first experience of sexuality is so unrealistic.
41, I believe we need to differentiate porn a bit here. The previous commenters were trying to point out not that porn is a fantasy, which it always is, but rather that there's "good" and "bad" porn out there. Take ~90% of mainstream porn as an example. We all know that it's fantasy, so that part doesn't bother people. The problem with it, instead, is that nothing in it is even remotely realistic. Being on the receiving end of moneyshots is actually fairly disgusting, going through a dozen different positions in 3 minutes isn't realistic and not everyone would wish for nothing more than threesomes. Furthermore, only fairly few women actually like getting railed at mach-speed and not everyone likes grunting and squealing. Mainstream porn basically just tries to present people sexual aspects that are not the norm, because it's more exciting to the target demographic. "Normal" sex tends to bore people, because it's something that's achievable and, after all, "normal". PS: I also don't think OP's name is an implication of gold-diggery, as you seem to suggest, but rather explains that the only reason so many porn stars go through with this stuff is because they need to make ends meet. Think of the classical "I don't get payed enough to deal with this crap" type of situation.
Everyone has their own kinks, so he shouldn't be mad. So try to get him off of porn, it sets unrealistic standards as well.
because your lover can not always be there when you're horny. and sometimes they're not up for it. porn isn't necessarily bad. in fact it could be a good thing to watch porn with your lover. then perhaps do stuff yourselves. it could help set the mood of things, but only if your partner is up for that. they may be uncomfy watching porn with you or you watching porn. but if you're both up for it why not?
#39, some people just like to watch it. My boyfriend watches porn a lot. And he also jerks off a lot. But we also have an extremely active sex life on top of that. Some people like to play video games on their down time, some people read books, and some people like watching porn.
Exactly! Plus, what if one person has a higher sex drive than their partner? They need a place to release without forcing or making their partner feel like they need to have sex just because their partner does. What if you have a high sex drive, your partner forbids porn and/or masturbation? Some might turn and cheat on their partners others might find other ways or even end it with their partner.