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  culphy  |  14

Errr, most girls bleed during their first time due to their hymen tearing. This is a normal thing. If it didn't tear during sex (and it hadn't been torn through other sexual/unsexual activities) I would be concerned. I believe you are the one in need of sexual education.

  Luluthus  |  41

No, if you are well prepared with plenty of foreplay, and preferably lube, there should be no tearing, only stretching. Go to youtube and search for Laci Green hymen for sex-ed on this.

  hystericsky  |  11

I was about to say the exact same thing #59.

It's just like with stretching your ears. If there's blood something ripped, and nothing is ever supposed to rip, just stretch.

Of course there's always the option of a period, but this FML isn't very specific on which.

  junkman6  |  22

#16 is that even possible? I mean you're taught to clean under the foreskin if you're uncircumcised so it's not like this should be the first time he's pulled it back. If it is then he would have, for lack of a better term, cheese dick like crazy. Not cleaning under a foreskin leads to huge issues and foreskins don't magically weld themselves onto the head of your dick after a few hours.

  Ilmoran  |  20

Its definitely possible 69; the condition is called Phimosis, and you could still be able to clean appropriately but tear the foreskin during sex, because you generally aren't erect when you are retracting the foreskin to clean. With Phimosis or Frenulum Breve (condition in which connective tissue called the frenulum is too short to allow proper retraction), the additional size and decreased flexibility/elasticity when erect can cause tearing of the foreskin or frenulum during sex.


Some individuals are born without a hymen. As later stated, bleeding is due to tearing. Friction causing tears, causes include: lack of arousal, lack of lubrication, or incompatible size

  HanBroman  |  20

laci green is wrong though. not everyone has a hymen like the one she described. mine was extremely thick and whole until I tore it a little while rock climbing, starting my first period which went for 16 days. when I started sexual activity my boyfriend could not even fit his little finger in without excruciating pain. my hymen had two very small holes in it. no amount of lube and foreplay was going to change the fact that it needed to be torn open.

  rikitsumiatsu  |  11

I had that happen to me, I was doin the do and my frenulum ripped. I got a sharp pain in my dick and it bled like hell. Couldn't do much with it for a week or two. Shit sucked.

  NickACD  |  27

Well, thank you for lowering my resolve to live to see the abhorrent failure of this generation and future generations deteriorating. I did not think much of this, because I assumed they were old enough and uneducated.

  Unlucky1232  |  20

sex ed? have you been to America? It's about as useful as putting a bandaid on a stab wound.


That analogy is ridiculous. 1) This FML is from Portugal, not America. And 2) sex ed is very useful, it teaches people all the ins and outs of sex. So if the boyfriend was taught well, he would understand it's the girl that usually bleeds during sex, not the guy. Or if he isn't circumcised, he could have ripped something, but usually not enough to bleed out. All countries, including America, have improved a lot with sex ed, better understanding of what happens during sex, lowest teen pregnancies ever, lower abortion rates, high use of protection and contraception, lower STI rates, and believe it or not, this generation has the fewest sexual partners.
Sex ed isn't like putting a band-aid on a stab wound, it's like demonstrating how to properly and safely handle knives so they don't get the stab wound in the first place.

  OnceUponABear  |  16

You'd be surprised 36. I grew up in a tiny town and the sex ed class was a joke. Basically just pictures of STDs and they said this is what happens if you have sex. Plus if there was a bad/no birds and the bees talk from his parents, I could easily see this happening.

  tigerisabelle  |  31

Yeah, you aren't using protection? you might not get an std, but what about pregnancy? even if you are on birth control, it's not 100% effective. by the sound of this FML i'm guessing you aren't in the stage of your life where you want a baby.
buy a pack of trojans. maybe it's embarassing. maybe you think they'll be uncomfortable. do it anyways

  killerdana  |  19

Let's hope in a month she's not writing another FML that she's with child because her boyfriend told her that she can't get pregnant the first time or because a friend told her to jump up and down afterwards and then stand on her head


78- I agree but there is always the possibility that they've been together for a long time (they could be in their 20s or something) and not feel the need for a condom if OP's on the pill. The pill is over 99% effective when used properly. However, if they haven't been together long, or if they're young, I agree that they should've used a condom.

  doodlecloud  |  26

78 Why would you use protection just because it's your first time? Assuming you were using the pill properly, std checked, etc. I can't see much of an advantage. In fact, sometimes they make things less naturally lubricated which may make things worse. I don't think it's much of a big deal either way overall, just wondered why you were surprised.