By thnxbabe - 22/09/2014 02:11
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You should have kicked out the non-bf people. Or just left. I wouldn't have bothered to put up with that. That's one really crappy anniversary celebration.
6 months can be a big thing for some people. It may not count to you, but it could mean a lot to someone else.
anniversary implies annually. i.e. a year. yes 6 months can be seen as a milestone to celebrate and that's fine. I wonder if he knew she was celebrating that or it was just a night to go out. it sucks but paying for everything should never had happened if she put her foot down and said I want this to just be you and me celebrating. sounds like communication isn't quite there
Am I the only one confused why the OP went to such a fancy restaurant for a 6-month anniversary? I had to reread to make sure it didn't say 6-year. OP needs to have a talk with their bf since obliviously they have no idea what is inappropriate to do when celebrating occasions with your significant other.
I agree. A 6 mth "anniversary" isn't really an anniversary to me. With that said though, op wanted to celebrate being together 6 months which is fine but either she didn't get her point across that it was a special anniversary and not a party, or her boyfriends an idiot in which case he doesn't take her feelings seriously. Op, you shouldn't have paid for it and allowed the friends to come if it meant that much to you. Stand up for yourself or people will continue to walk all over you. And maybe have a talk with your boyfriend because it sounds like this isn't as serious for him as it is for you.
YDI because there is no such thing as a "six-month anniversary". The word "anniversary" is derived from "annus", Latin for "year". You could have said "semi anniversary" I suppose, but this thing of dividing relationships into ever smaller increments is ridiculous. It either suggests you are the over-clingy girlfriend or that the relationship is doomed to be so short that you need to mark every month.
When my wife and I first started dating, we celebrated our 3 months, 6 month, 9 month, and 1 year "anniversaries" together. For the 3 month mark, we had a private dinner together at my home. For the 6 month, we had a picnic on a mountaintop, and for our 9 month, we had a fancy dinner out with friends, during which I proposed. We've been together for 10 years, and married for 8 of them. After that first year, we stopped counting in months, and we didn't celebrate the segments of our first year married, but for the first year of dating, it can be romantic to celebrate those milestones together. It doesn't have to be clingy or pathetic to mark a milestone in a relationship, and certainly doesn't indicate a failing or miserable couple who is destined to break up.
#10, I completely agree with you. Those people who do those "one month anniversaries" and crap seriously irritate me. Is it necessary to call one month of being together an anniversary? Instead of being something special, anniversaries are now cliches that have lost their deep meaning. So screw you people who use anniversary as common celebrations.
#23, why would other people identifying something as a "six-month anniversary" take away from the import of an individual annual milestone for you or anyone else, any more than someone getting married at an Elvis chapel in Vegas after knowing each other for a weekend would make all marriages a cliche? Sure, "anniversary"'s roots are from "annual", but it's no longer limited to that. The very first defintion and example for it in Merriam-Webster Online is this: "the annual recurrence of a date marking a notable event; broadly : a date that follows such an event by a specified period of time measured in units other than years <the 6-month anniversary of the accident>".