By yeah hun i think insects arent animals too - 09/10/2013 07:51 - Germany - Leipzig
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My recently ex-boyfriend was the same way. Do NOT play dumb. Do yourself a favor and tell him that he either needs to realize he isn't the focal point of the relationship and you are intelligent, or break it off. You'll find someone who thinks your intelligence is sexy, not intimidating!
That's ridiculous. Anytime you have to pretend or be something that you're not, its not worth being in that relationship. I'm sorry, OP, but if he wants you to pretend to be stupid and you bend to his will and bow to him now, it will just start a chain reaction and you will be controlled. You will find yourself years down the road with no friends, no life, with kids he won't take care of. (Ive known quite a few that its happened to) If he isn't accepting of EVERY part of you, then he does not deserve.
Stop generalizing. Not everyone has the same sexual preferences as you. Some might find intelligence imasculating or feel that the difference on intelligence makes tge relationship unequal or just plainly aren't attracted
^ what they said. why pretend like something you're not? there is honestly nothing better than being yourself. & honesty is a great trait. you need to be honest with him & let him know how it makes you feel. if he doesn't accept it, then dump him. everyone deserves so much better than that.
I hate liars. There are times when a white lie is acceptable, such as "I love your outfit" or "of course I want to go see that terrible action movie with you babe." However, in the long run, I would feel more insulted that someone dumbed themselves down so I could feel better than if they just showed their intelligence in the first place. I mean, there is a limit. If my boyfriend was constantly showing off how smart they were to the point of making me feel dumb intentionally, that would be a problem. But I find men and women who are smart to be better companions than people who are dumb.
Except for us guys. If we tell the truth all the time we wouldn't have any girlfriends to begin with. "Honey, do these jeans make me look fat?" "Yes babe, I can see your muffin top from here." And cue the violence and crying.. A little white lie doesn't kill a relationship. Sure, you need to be yourself, but you also need to know to realize when the truth isn't always the best answer. Well it seems 78 beat to me the punch this time.
Actually, I rather the whole truth. If I look like a fat piece of shit in a certain pair of jeans, I want you to tell me that. Sure I might get angry, but at least I won't be walking around town with my beer gut showing. I think lying, even to protect feelings is wrong. But then again, some girls like little white lies.
80 There's a difference between being honest and being insensitive. You can tell someone she doesn't look good in a particular dress without referring to her fat as a "muffin top," lol. Even girls who appreciate their bf being honest (ie That dress isn't super flattering on you baby, maybe try this one?) would get angry at an insensitive comment. But you're right, some girls get mad no matter what, so I guess it depends on who you're dating :)
I would rather someone told me I looked bad than actually walk around like an idiot. I have had boyfriend who would tell me "you look like a dyke/hippo/troll in that outfit." I did not stay with them long. My current boyfriend is a bit blunt, but doesn't do it to hurt me. He hates this one dress I own, he says it makes me look like his grandmother. I don't wear it anymore because other people also said similar things and I was glad he was honest.
And why can't you tell if you look bad on your own? Mirrors exist and you know that trick the hairdresser does to show you the back of your neck? Works everywhere else too. Or you could just look over your shoulder. Asking someone's opinion of your outfit is fine, but questions like the classic "Do I look fat in this?" should be self-evident and are usually just people fishing for compliments.
Why degrade yourself OP? Intelligence is sexy.
Tell him to just deal with it, don't pretend to be dumb.