By yeah hun i think insects arent animals too - 09/10/2013 07:51 - Germany - Leipzig

Today, I yet again had to pretend to be a dumb bimbo so that my boyfriend wouldn't get upset over the fact that, in some cases, I might be smarter than him. FML
I agree, your life sucks 41 611
You deserved it 23 870

Same thing different taste

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Why degrade yourself OP? Intelligence is sexy.

Tell him to just deal with it, don't pretend to be dumb.


Tell him to just deal with it, don't pretend to be dumb.

And if he can't then she shouldn't be with him. Someone shouldn't have to debase themselves to make their partner feel better about themselves.

Seriously! If you have to pretend to be stupid so you don't damage his ego than there's a problem.

kyu_Q 19

time to get a boyfriend that's not threatened by you. God forbid you get a job that pays more than his does

He needs to wake up and realize its not 1800 anymore >.>

My recently ex-boyfriend was the same way. Do NOT play dumb. Do yourself a favor and tell him that he either needs to realize he isn't the focal point of the relationship and you are intelligent, or break it off. You'll find someone who thinks your intelligence is sexy, not intimidating!

That's ridiculous. Anytime you have to pretend or be something that you're not, its not worth being in that relationship. I'm sorry, OP, but if he wants you to pretend to be stupid and you bend to his will and bow to him now, it will just start a chain reaction and you will be controlled. You will find yourself years down the road with no friends, no life, with kids he won't take care of. (Ive known quite a few that its happened to) If he isn't accepting of EVERY part of you, then he does not deserve.

Why degrade yourself OP? Intelligence is sexy.

Obviously she's not that smart if she doesn't leave a dumbass like that

^Word. Nothing as sexy as an intelligent woman.

Stop generalizing. Not everyone has the same sexual preferences as you. Some might find intelligence imasculating or feel that the difference on intelligence makes tge relationship unequal or just plainly aren't attracted

#61: They have blow up dolls for guys like you.

69 - We can't generalize his sexual preferences! He might not be into those dolls!!

#69, #72 well obviously the doll won't emasculate him by bein too intelligent.... I think.

#77 judging by his comment even the doll would be too much woman to handle

Rainhawk94 27
cantik20 5

Smart bimbo is the way to go. You have the whole package, Beauty and brain. why lower your self to his level.

@2: Faith in humanity restored! what a refreshing change to see a male who values a womans intelligence. I find that pretty sexy! ;)

140, I'm sad that you think it's a rarity for a man to be intrigued by a woman's intelligence.

I never understood the whole "dumb is cute" mind set girls have...

You shouldn't pretend to be anything for anyone. People appreciate honesty in a relationship, and you are setting yourself up for disaster. Leave him if he can't handle you as you are.

^ what they said. why pretend like something you're not? there is honestly nothing better than being yourself. & honesty is a great trait. you need to be honest with him & let him know how it makes you feel. if he doesn't accept it, then dump him. everyone deserves so much better than that.

I hate liars. There are times when a white lie is acceptable, such as "I love your outfit" or "of course I want to go see that terrible action movie with you babe." However, in the long run, I would feel more insulted that someone dumbed themselves down so I could feel better than if they just showed their intelligence in the first place. I mean, there is a limit. If my boyfriend was constantly showing off how smart they were to the point of making me feel dumb intentionally, that would be a problem. But I find men and women who are smart to be better companions than people who are dumb.

CallMeMcFeelii 13

Except for us guys. If we tell the truth all the time we wouldn't have any girlfriends to begin with. "Honey, do these jeans make me look fat?" "Yes babe, I can see your muffin top from here." And cue the violence and crying.. A little white lie doesn't kill a relationship. Sure, you need to be yourself, but you also need to know to realize when the truth isn't always the best answer. Well it seems 78 beat to me the punch this time.

Ari1337 15

Actually, I rather the whole truth. If I look like a fat piece of shit in a certain pair of jeans, I want you to tell me that. Sure I might get angry, but at least I won't be walking around town with my beer gut showing. I think lying, even to protect feelings is wrong. But then again, some girls like little white lies.

80 There's a difference between being honest and being insensitive. You can tell someone she doesn't look good in a particular dress without referring to her fat as a "muffin top," lol. Even girls who appreciate their bf being honest (ie That dress isn't super flattering on you baby, maybe try this one?) would get angry at an insensitive comment. But you're right, some girls get mad no matter what, so I guess it depends on who you're dating :)

I would rather someone told me I looked bad than actually walk around like an idiot. I have had boyfriend who would tell me "you look like a dyke/hippo/troll in that outfit." I did not stay with them long. My current boyfriend is a bit blunt, but doesn't do it to hurt me. He hates this one dress I own, he says it makes me look like his grandmother. I don't wear it anymore because other people also said similar things and I was glad he was honest.

And why can't you tell if you look bad on your own? Mirrors exist and you know that trick the hairdresser does to show you the back of your neck? Works everywhere else too. Or you could just look over your shoulder. Asking someone's opinion of your outfit is fine, but questions like the classic "Do I look fat in this?" should be self-evident and are usually just people fishing for compliments.

nightowl713 25

You should never pretend to be something you're not. If he can't handle it, then he isn't the one for you.

Tell him in big words the buller block experiment.

flashback.miss 28

if he can't handle the fact his girlfriend is smarter than he is, then he's too immature to commit to a relationship.

NEVER dumb yourself down for a guy. You are better than that.

I say: fake it 'till you make it! May as well, she's with an idiot anyway.

Why would it be bad to have a smarter girlfriend? I would prefer a smart girl over a dumb girl. I guess some guys just always have to feel superior to their girlfriends.

saraitkddh 47

I guess it's time for you to find a man instead of a child, sorry OP

sohigh10 34

or a woman.. we're an open minded community..

I wonder about the qualities your boyfriend must possess for you to consider it a good decision to change yourself that much, just to stay with him.