By Charley - 25/11/2016 10:44

Today, I was teaching a new student their first ever piano lesson, hoping that they would sign up for more lessons. Thirty minutes had gone by and after the 5th time of me saying what a talented, sweet little girl she was, the mother told me it was in fact a boy. They didn't sign up. FML
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You meant no harm by it, the mother should've corrected you a lot earlier.

CalculatedRisk 19

Some people are just a little out of tune.


You meant no harm by it, the mother should've corrected you a lot earlier.

CalculatedRisk 19

Some people are just a little out of tune.

I'm here to let you know that even though this comment is buried, I was thoroughly cracked up by it. Best comment by a huge margin. Still giggling to myself like a crazy person. You are appreciated.

Prepubescent children are very androgynous. Don't feel bad. It's the mother's fault for not correcting you the first time, and, I assume, grooming and dressing him in a way that made him appear feminine.

Yes! that happened to me the other day too. this little boy had long wavy brown hair and his face was feminine.

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I know it's hard, but try not to hop on that band wagon because it's full of very ignorant, misinformed people.

Isa_fml 20

Yeah, using good manners is so ignorant. Ugh.

Yeah because it's more proper to refer to everyone as "it" until you know how they identify. Hell, they shouldn't even tell you the sex of their babies when they're born. Let it decide.

Tsumetai_ 11

um You don't need to use "It" when referring to someone whose gender you don't know. They/them, gender neutral terms exist.

they/them exists. I swear, you people are retarded

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what's worse to you? misgendering or ableism? I personally don't think misgendering is that big of a deal unless done in a way that is to purposefully hurt the misgendered person nor do I think ableism is truly a legit concern (in a lot of instances I have witnessed it just seemed to be like aggression taken towards the able bodied person when a little education could have gotten a lot farther. same can go with getting mad over being misgendered tbh). Also while I do avoid assuming gender out loud I totally do so in my head. And I'd bet 50 bucks that a lot of people who get angry about this topic and aren't transgender or androgyne do the freaking same at the very least. I wouldn't be surpris3d if everyone at least played a guessing game in thier head... not fueled by bigotry mind you but by curiosity and people make assumptions and judge other all the time, whether they like it or not and whether they admit it or not. not saying to be proud of it. just to get over it. ). but yeah mostly wanted to point out the hypocrisy in that response lol.

They/them is plural. You shouldn't refer to a singular object with a plural pronoun. Perhaps we should all carry around a pocket book with all the different genders and tip toe around in life so not as to offend anybody. Stop making mountains out of molehills, please.

Did #6 change their comment? Because none of the following comments really make sense to what I see.

You do realize sex and gender aren't the same right. what you identify as on a social basis is not always the same as your sex. That's why you don't assume people's gender.

So you're supposed to ask everyone you meet about their preferred pronouns? Surely it's not that difficult to just correct someone if they misgender you, it's an honest mistake. People get so easily offended.

I don't see why using they/them for singular is a big deal. I also don't think misgendering is a big deal unless purposeful, but since when do people care about grammar enough to be huffy over they/them being used as singular?

Was his name Ashley or something else that could also be a girls name?

I used to be a tour guide and, I'm still kicking myself for this stupid thing, said to a kid who asked a question, "That's a great question, young man!" Of course, the ONE TIME in my life I say something like that, it was to a little girl in front of a huge crowd. The girl was a total tomboy with short hair and masculine features, but still, it taught me to be more gender-neutral in my approach to strangers. Feeling your pain, OP.

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A lot of kids don't have defined male/feminine features until puberty sets in and it can be really hard to tell sometimes, especially if they dress a certain way. My son has been mistaken for a girl many times and I see no harm in it, he is only one and has 3 older sisters so unless he's wearing blue or really defined boy stuff I see the mistake. He looks a lot like them. Don't be down on yourself too much OP