By jnr1234 - 20/06/2012 02:15 - United States - Princeton
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17, I'm not going to thumb you down because you have your own opinion. I'm attached to our dog and I have her for medical reasons. Terminally ill patients, such as myself, are recommended to get a dog because it gives them something to look forward to, instead of going to a ton of doctor appointments. Furthermore, it requires me to take care of my dog, which feels nice, because I'm used to having everyone take care of me. Some people don't think of their pets as their family, which is their choice, but the people who love their pets so dearly, will feel a void in their life. Thus, the original poster feels a loss and that's why most people are saying, "Sorry for you loss."
30, I didn't think you were rude. You have a right to state your opinion. You openly admit you don't get attached to animals, therefore, you didn't realize her loss. That's why I explained why I am attached and how others could be as well. All is good in the FML world lol. Everyone has a right to speak (write out in this case) their mind but not everyone has to agree :-).
Adding my opinion... That I, myself, would be devastated if my current kitty passed away. I have experienced the loss of a pet before.. & with that, I do not see how a person who has a pet cannot consider them a "part of the family"?! & just feel they are just an animal that is there who can be replaced so easily.. That is my opinion though. Obviously others think differently... I believe it also matters on how long you have had the pet, if they are considered JUST yours rather than a pet that is in your house but might be considered your parents, or the family's pet (that they picked out and take care of majority of the time), when you got it, how you got it, etc... You tend to become more attached to one that is just yours. One you raised since it was a baby & have had for a number of years. I feel it is a bond, just as strong as one you can have with a human.
17, ...I don't know how you ended up with so many thumbs down since everyone here apparently doesn't want to commit to having an opinion on your comment - but I certainly thumbed you down. Not so much because of your obvious lack of thought in that comment, but rather because somehow you think that humans are some kind of special species that need to be held in higher regard than every other lowly animal life form. Hate to break it to you, but at the end of the day we are all just a combination of elements destined for the same fate. Your misplaced sense of superiority doesn't change the fact.
We have had our cat for 13 yrs, she does tricks like a dog does, & meows back when you say hi, or ask her if she wants outside, & also meows "hi" when she comes in from outside. Each one has their own personality as people do & I am totally NOT looking forward to the day that we lose her!!!! How can you figure that someone (or to you, something ) that you see & spend time with everyday is not appropriate for someone to say, " sorry for your loss", it is possible that OP hasn't got any children & therefore an animal takes the place of that void in their life, making them even more attached to their pets!!!!! They do become a member of your family, & I feel so sorry for anyone who doesn't appreciate them on that level!!!!!
First off, I am sorry for your loss. In the defense of the vet though, a lot of times things like that are handled by third-party automatic mailing systems and not handled directly by the vet's office staff. I doubt the office would have sent that letter out themselves. Most people who work in jobs dealing with animals are very mindful of the close relationships owners have with their pets.
70, Sorry I let you down haha. You're thinking of either DocBastard or Perdix :-). Personally, I don't try to insult people, especially over the internet, because they stated their opinion. Now, if he called us all idiots for caring for the original poster's loss, (sadly for you) I would have asked him to explain why we are all idiots. Seeing as I'm very ill, I don't use my little my time putting other people down. I'm actually an oddball and ask why people feel that way. But I do thoroughly enjoy other comments, on FML, when people act like as if they are going to get a prize for using the most amounts of insults in a comment. Very amusing! :-)
I personally don't believe automated, impersonal remarks adequately assuage another human's grief nor express any true understanding of another human's suffering. I think it wiser to express empathy in one's own words and even better to express empathy with a hug (which cannot be done via the internet).
For many people, pets ARE family members. My beloved Miss Kitty certainly was. The cat I live with now, Penelope, certainly is. So "sorry for your loss" is perfectly appropriate, as people do grieve when their pets die. I was a total wreck after I had to put my cat down, and she was 18 years old and had been sick for a while. As for letter OP received, I have to wonder if they mailed it before the cat died, and the mails were slow (it can happen). That would be a logical explanation. Hopefully s/he will get a sympathy card from them shortly.
Aw OP, I'm so sorry for your loss...
I'm sure they're just kittin around. Seriously though, sorry about your cat.