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By jnr1234 / Wednesday 20 June 2012 02:15 / United States - Princeton
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  ebonyirony  |  29

Too bad they're suck dickheads. It's okay though. My aunt got her husbands dentist and doctor letters for three years. Didn't help the grieving process.

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  AKGirlinSD  |  20

That's awful Original Poster. As everyone else, I'm incredibly sorry for your loss. It doesn't help that your vet doesn't have their shit together. I bet when you opened the letter, you were expecting an "I'm sorry for your loss" note. What a slap in the face.

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  AKGirlinSD  |  20

17, I'm not going to thumb you down because you have your own opinion. I'm attached to our dog and I have her for medical reasons. Terminally ill patients, such as myself, are recommended to get a dog because it gives them something to look forward to, instead of going to a ton of doctor appointments. Furthermore, it requires me to take care of my dog, which feels nice, because I'm used to having everyone take care of me. Some people don't think of their pets as their family, which is their choice, but the people who love their pets so dearly, will feel a void in their life. Thus, the original poster feels a loss and that's why most people are saying, "Sorry for you loss."

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  Comet_Candy  |  23

17 - I'm not going to thumb you down, either. As an animal lover, I see my pets as family. They've been there for me through thick and thin... They love unconditionally. They may not be human but they sure do mean the world to me. And I'm sure OPs cat meant a lot to them, too.

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  AKGirlinSD  |  20

30, I didn't think you were rude. You have a right to state your opinion. You openly admit you don't get attached to animals, therefore, you didn't realize her loss. That's why I explained why I am attached and how others could be as well. All is good in the FML world lol. Everyone has a right to speak (write out in this case) their mind but not everyone has to agree :-).

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  curlyfry33  |  8

17, Not going against or for what you said but you mourn for the death of a family member because you love them, correct? People can love cats or any other animals also, they may not be human but their still living breathing creatures capable of bringing joy to people.

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Adding my opinion... That I, myself, would be devastated if my current kitty passed away. I have experienced the loss of a pet before.. & with that, I do not see how a person who has a pet cannot consider them a "part of the family"?! & just feel they are just an animal that is there who can be replaced so easily.. That is my opinion though. Obviously others think differently... I believe it also matters on how long you have had the pet, if they are considered JUST yours rather than a pet that is in your house but might be considered your parents, or the family's pet (that they picked out and take care of majority of the time), when you got it, how you got it, etc... You tend to become more attached to one that is just yours. One you raised since it was a baby & have had for a number of years. I feel it is a bond, just as strong as one you can have with a human.

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  downtime  |  12

17, ...I don't know how you ended up with so many thumbs down since everyone here apparently doesn't want to commit to having an opinion on your comment - but I certainly thumbed you down. Not so much because of your obvious lack of thought in that comment, but rather because somehow you think that humans are some kind of special species that need to be held in higher regard than every other lowly animal life form. Hate to break it to you, but at the end of the day we are all just a combination of elements destined for the same fate. Your misplaced sense of superiority doesn't change the fact.

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  Baustigt  |  40

I feel like I've stumbled into some creepy FML twilight zone here. What is this devilry? People having a mature and friendly debate? Where are the insults? Where's that one guy who calls everybody a shitwagon and thinks he's won the argument? I don't like it! I don't like it at all! *smashes window and escapes into the night*

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  fadingaway  |  16

Really, 17? My four dogs are just as much a part of the family as any person. I definitely consider them equal to humans, even better sometimes because unlike people, they show unconditional love.

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  babe7260  |  28

We have had our cat for 13 yrs, she does tricks like a dog does, & meows back when you say hi, or ask her if she wants outside, & also meows "hi" when she comes in from outside. Each one has their own personality as people do & I am totally NOT looking forward to the day that we lose her!!!! How can you figure that someone (or to you, something ) that you see & spend time with everyday is not appropriate for someone to say, " sorry for your loss", it is possible that OP hasn't got any children & therefore an animal takes the place of that void in their life, making them even more attached to their pets!!!!! They do become a member of your family, & I feel so sorry for anyone who doesn't appreciate them on that level!!!!!

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  rlr386  |  8

First off, I am sorry for your loss. In the defense of the vet though, a lot of times things like that are handled by third-party automatic mailing systems and not handled directly by the vet's office staff. I doubt the office would have sent that letter out themselves. Most people who work in jobs dealing with animals are very mindful of the close relationships owners have with their pets.

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  AKGirlinSD  |  20

70, Sorry I let you down haha. You're thinking of either DocBastard or Perdix :-). Personally, I don't try to insult people, especially over the internet, because they stated their opinion. Now, if he called us all idiots for caring for the original poster's loss, (sadly for you) I would have asked him to explain why we are all idiots. Seeing as I'm very ill, I don't use my little my time putting other people down. I'm actually an oddball and ask why people feel that way. But I do thoroughly enjoy other comments, on FML, when people act like as if they are going to get a prize for using the most amounts of insults in a comment. Very amusing! :-)

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I personally don't believe automated, impersonal remarks adequately assuage another human's grief nor express any true understanding of another human's suffering. I think it wiser to express empathy in one's own words and even better to express empathy with a hug (which cannot be done via the internet).

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  Baustigt  |  40

Whoa, steady on, 85. I don't think I've ever really seen Perdix get into an argument (just... uh, don't mention the Prius). He just kind of flits around and does his own thing. A bit like a tumble-weed. So dragging his good name through the dirt like that is just horrible slander and lies. You should be ashamed. And Doc may be known to smack a dumbass or two but, you know, he went to medical school. He's allowed to do whatever the hell he likes.

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  Baustigt  |  40

Precisely. And furthermore, 85, if you knew anything about Doc at all you'd know that he's really very sweet and sensitive like a little puff pastry. So shame. Shame on you for crushing his beautiful, feminine spirit. Now if you'll excuse me, I have an underground shelter to barricade before someone who shall go unnamed hunts me down and murders me with a colonosc - uh, I mean... you know, something about zombies and shit.

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  bubbywaldo  |  0

Hah, excellent Baustigt, you have made my day! i also enjoyed the civility. I'm a veterinarian and am daily amazed at the beauty and love of the human animal bond.

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  JulietRose  |  10

OP, I also want to say that I am sorry for your loss and I hope that you will feel better soon. When I was 14, I lost my cat and he was a part of my family before I was! It was so sad. Losing a pet is difficult. Just remember how much fun you had with your cat! :) hope u feel better.

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  DanielleinDC  |  28

For many people, pets ARE family members. My beloved Miss Kitty certainly was. The cat I live with now, Penelope, certainly is. So "sorry for your loss" is perfectly appropriate, as people do grieve when their pets die. I was a total wreck after I had to put my cat down, and she was 18 years old and had been sick for a while. As for letter OP received, I have to wonder if they mailed it before the cat died, and the mails were slow (it can happen). That would be a logical explanation. Hopefully s/he will get a sympathy card from them shortly.

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  TheMathMajor  |  26

This is so weird because just yesterday the vet called me to tell me that my dog was due for something and I had to tell her that my dog had passed away 6 months ago. To be fair, this was a specialized vet that we went to, and not the one that we went to when the dog was dying.

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  hiitisbrooke  |  25

I've had my dog for 11 years and I am so scared to lose her. Every time I see her laying down with closed eyes unmoving my heart cracks in two. I don't want to lose my baby! Had her since I was kid.

By  durkagihad  |  12

You're vet is also a cremator? Bet they do taxidermy too

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  ShyAnn29  |  14

5, I don't think I'd like my pet freeze dried after death, it'd be creepy to see it's body and yet it's not alive, I don't know about you, but I couldn't do that

By  ManBroSkiGirl  |  10

Send them the dead body. No jk..

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  ManBroSkiGirl  |  10

Whoops didn't see the cremated part. Sorry fellow Fml'ers.

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  curlyfry33  |  8

For 1 that was pretty heartless and 2 you didn't even get your information right, I hope your embarrassed because you deserve it, it's just another dead animal until it happens to your pet. That's karma for you

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  downtime  |  12

She apologised for being uncapable of reading, not for the twisted suggestion she made. Unless No JK suddenly means the exact opposite of its literal meaning, or she forgot the damn comma too.

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