By Jake - 28/09/2010 17:35 - United States
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YDI for attempting to fornicate (ESPECIALLY in a public place like that), for ever going to a movie theater, for wearing a shirt, and for having a mother.
Wow, are some mum's really this protective of their children? Maybe she knows something about the girl you don't? Or maybe your age has something to do with this?
jakii - I'm not saying what the mum did was right. I was saying it was more understandable if he was younger. Also, for all we know, his mum might have told him the condition he was allowed to go on, was no kissing. It's also possible she didn't, true, and you have a valid point that she shouldn't complain if she originally said yes, if she knew the full details.
#71, Where to start? I agree that there is an age when children are too young to kiss, and that's the age before they develop the motor skills to be able to do so. Once they can, they start imitating those around them, even things they don't understand. I think you are saying that there is an age where children should not be allowed to kiss, and again, I disagree. Children will become curious about their sexuality at some point, and they should be educated to take precautions so they don't do anything stupid. Stopping a child from quite possibly their first charged kiss is really idiotic (unless the circumstances are extraordinary). The message it sends could cause the child to feel bad about their sexual urges, and then they are going to start sneaking behind the parents' backs, and that's when you get an unwanted pregnancy. Of course, this is just my opinion, which, brings me to my second point, typing opinion makes me think of the word onion. That is all.
122, wow. I obviously didn't read the thread. Still haven't and I'm not going to. You simply said I'm right so I'm saying you're wrong and I'm right. :P You may be right in your own head but what you said was an opinion. Not a fact therefore you're not right. I'm being a hypocrite. :) I'm love, what do you expect? The point is although you may feel like what the mum did was wrong, a lot of people would disagree with what you said. You're not right either way. And thank you but no. I'm not that kind of mother. :]
105 Alkix Sorry so late in responding (I was at a Godsmack concert :) I have read some of your past comments and really enjoy your view points on many things. Again it all depends on the age of a "child". Just because they are curious doesn't give them free range to act on their urges. I'm fully aware about sexuality. Educate? Ofcousre-on self respect, not giving into peer pressure and self control. It starts with kissing doesn't it? When my children take that step, they will know it's the right time for "them" because they will be "old enough" to think for themselves.
As I see it, the key word in the sourgirl/Alkix debate is "allow." It's one thing to teach your child that exploring sexuality starts with kissing, and therefore advise your child to wait to kiss until he or she understands boundaries and the effects of peer pressure. It's quite another thing to say "You may not and will not kiss anyone until x (basically, 'when I say you're ready')." OP's situation is obviously an extreme of the latter. I agree with Alkix about the potential for harm such an extreme response poses. IMO, it's just as, if not more, dangerous than not paying any attention to your teen's life, especially when such restrictions are coupled with a lack of education and open, honest communication about sex. I do think, though, that kids should be encouraged to enjoy their childhoods as much as possible. It bothers me in a way I can't articulate to see parents encouraging their elementary-school kids to have and kiss boyfriends and girlfriends before the thought naturally occurs to them. Basically, I think either extreme is unhealthy. I'm not and won't be a parent, though, so take that for what it's worth. ;)
well sourgirl I don't take kissing as bitching as you do. And to surprise you I have a 12 year old home, so what's your point? The OP went on a date let say he is 12 and so what? who says he cannot kiss. It's safe, it's funny and either him or his girlfriend won't get preg ( especially him). So why not? what so wrong in it? What wrong even if he was 6 or 5 year old????
Jakii, if that "yes i AM right" comment was aimed at my post, then you should reread it. I never said you were wrong, I was just stating that not everyone would agree, and that there is a difference between right and understandable. There aren't always clear cut right and wrong answers.
149: I can't tell who you're talking to, but no matter who it is, why do you give a crap? If the post looks too long for your attention span, skip it. There's no rule against having pertinent debates, and some of us enjoy putting more thought behind our responses than a comment like "lol haha ur mom sux!!1!" requires.
u guys have it all wrong kissing is psychological, one kiss does NOT mean that ur kids are going to go get pregnant. if u ask any kid under the age of 12, kissing to them just means that ur showing u like someone, its just innocent only wen a child gets to 13 and up, does kissing have alittle bit of a deeper meaning. it is the first step in sexuality. ur child is not going to become a whore if they have their first kiss at 13. i didnt get mine til 15 because i waited for the right guy. i know 17 year olds that havent gotten their first kiss, not because of their parents, but because they made the decison to wait
Sounds disgraceful. Did you two decide to fritter away your pointless time by immersing yourself in a fictional world for a while in the hopes of forgetting how utterly miserable the universe is? You probably made things even worse. Life. Don't talk to me about life.
YDI for kissing a girl on the first date. It's not kiss on the first date. It's FUCK on the first date. Even though you didn't say "first date," I still know it was!!!!