While I don't know the whole story... Maybe your boyfriend should've stayed and helped you get through the rest? Since he didn't, I don't believe he was as good for you as you thought.

I agree. If he did indeed wanted to break up with her for a while, he could've waited until after she got through such a tough time.

#19 maybe it's just me but I'd prefer to lose someone when we know things are over then to have them hanging around and pitying me when they don't want to be there.

I can understand it if he'd wanted to breakup, though if it CAUSED the breakup, it's kind of a dick move. It's not healthy, of course, but there's a lot of way more effective ways to help than suddenly ending it.

That's the single most ignorant thing I've ever heard. If you want to leave. You leave . What are you like 12? You don't "wait" to leave someone when it's convenient for them. Time to grow up kiddo

having somebody lean on you for their well being, rather than seek it themselves, is incredibly unhealthy

He doesn't want to be held responsible for another human being's happiness, which would put a massive about of pressure on him and require him to live up to completely unrealistic expectations?

Life is not as simple as that. Someone who feels that almost everything in life is bad needs more help than it is fair to expect one person to do. And most people in OPs situation go through a very long rough time (years). He is not obliged to wait it out until she's going better. Rough timing, though.

I might be a terrible person, but I'd probably end up breaking up with someone who told me I was the only good thing in their life as well. When you're living a healthy life, socially speaking, you have several people to fill the positions in your life - your friends, your family, your significant other, acquaintances you share hobbies with etc. It's not fair to expect one person to fill all those roles for you and puts them under way too much stress - and at that point, I personally would have to prioritize my own psychological health over my partner's. A relationship should be the cherry on top, not the entire cake.

So very well said. I know it seems like a dick move on the part of the boyfriend, but it's unfair to demand one person fill all ones emotional needs. A boyfriend/girlfriend should never be the *only* good thing in ones life--no one should have to shoulder that kind of stress. Unless, of course, the OP was using hyperbole and was just expressing that she was going through a rough time. Then yeah, boyfriend might be a douche.

I think expecting your SO to 'save' you or to solve your problems is really unhealthy. It creates a dynamic where one person feels all the pressure and responsibility for the other one's happiness and the other person becomes dependent on their SO and doesn't learn to live life for themselves. While I agree it was unfortunate timing, I don't blame the guy. If you need saving, you're not ready for an SO. It's unfair to expect someone to stick around to be the only good thing in your life.

I agree. It's not healthy, and super stressful, when someone says you're the only thing keeping them going. However as you said, I think if he really valued her and the relationship it would've made more sense that he at least try a few things to help her get through it (like exposing her to new people/activities, encourage therapy, ...) and then end the relationship if it didn't work. He's entitled to dumping her immediately after she said that, but it does sort of imply that he viewed the relationship as something not worth the effort of at least trying :/ That is unless this has been going on for a while (there could be important info left out) and he finally couldn't take the negativity anymore. It's a sucky situation all around :(

How do you know that her boyfriend hadn't been on the verge of breaking up with her anyway though? If someone is at the point in their life where their SO is the only good thing in their life, they've probably been a lot less fun than they used to be for a long time.