By Anonymous - 8/2/2021 20:58 - Australia - Surry Hills

Quite the journey

Today, I begrudgingly helped relocate my 84-year-old mother-in-law to our home at my partner's adamant request. It took months of stressful preparation, around $10,000 in costs, and some 500 km travelled via medical transport. Ten minutes after arriving, she had a heart attack and died. FML
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By  coius  |  23

Try not to take it too hard. Chances are she was on the verge and the travel put so much stress on her body, it couldn’t handle it. She didn’t do it to spite you, and your spouse will probably be grieving. I’m sorry about the costs, but try to look at the bigger picture. Feel good you tried to help your spouse in a tough time, and were caring enough to bend your routine to help your spouse. Be proud you had a kind enough heart to at least try to be accomodating. But most of all, take comfort you didn’t let someone die alone. Dying alone (or dying) can be a great fear to the elderly. As my dad ages, I see it in him as well.
It might have been somewhat of a long overdue comfort for her when she passed to be with family. No one should die alone, and she did what millions in the pandemic could not do. She died in the comfort and presence of family and loved ones. Be greatful you could provide that, not angry or bitter. You afforded her her last luxury

By  xxlk4xx  |  5

I really love what you wrote here and could not agree more! OP sounds like a really good person and I'm glad mil was at least able to pass with her loved ones with her, and not alone.

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By  coius  |  23

Try not to take it too hard. Chances are she was on the verge and the travel put so much stress on her body, it couldn’t handle it. She didn’t do it to spite you, and your spouse will probably be grieving. I’m sorry about the costs, but try to look at the bigger picture. Feel good you tried to help your spouse in a tough time, and were caring enough to bend your routine to help your spouse. Be proud you had a kind enough heart to at least try to be accomodating. But most of all, take comfort you didn’t let someone die alone. Dying alone (or dying) can be a great fear to the elderly. As my dad ages, I see it in him as well.
It might have been somewhat of a long overdue comfort for her when she passed to be with family. No one should die alone, and she did what millions in the pandemic could not do. She died in the comfort and presence of family and loved ones. Be greatful you could provide that, not angry or bitter. You afforded her her last luxury

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  xxlk4xx  |  5

I really love what you wrote here and could not agree more! OP sounds like a really good person and I'm glad mil was at least able to pass with her loved ones with her, and not alone.

By  Jon Tessler  |  6

sorry for your loss. don't act like the money or travel time is more important than the fact she was with family when she passed. with this pandemic, a lot of people haven't had the ability to do that.

thoughts and prayers for you and your husband