By pocketrocket90 - 08/08/2014 06:05 - Australia - Capalaba
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#34, was a nerve hit? Seems like you took that one personally. I think the boyfriend just had too much too drink and contemplated on making a decision he wasn't in the current mind frame to make. OP's boyfriend isn't the first to get drunk and say/do something he'll mostly regret when sober.
Really guys? You're giving him the excuse of being drunk to make it okay for him to act like that? Hell no. That's his girlfriend. The ONLY one he should be having sex with or even think about having sex with, regardless if he's drunk or not. And if he wants to do it with another girl than he definitely doesn't deserve OP.
You know these "I hope you mean your ex-" comments are really starting to piss me off. It's none of our business how they solve the problems in their relationship or whether they choose to work through their hurdles. I find it reprehensible that he would make that call even while drunk, and it's okay for me to voice that opinion. What's not okay is for me to take that one action and use it to judge his conduct throughout the relationship and then share that judgmental attitude with someone who's hurting as opposed to what they need: comfort and consolation. All the judgmental-ism does in cases like these is make a hard spot for OP harder and to me that's not acceptable.
Obviously you're a guy and they tend to handle problems differently. However, when a girl airs out relationship problems to friends (or strangers on the Internet) she is looking for them to agree "he's a jerk" and "you're so much better than that". Have you never watched a chick flick??
Not sure anyone bothered to read the second part of my "rant" I even said, in higher vocabulary, that he's a jerk and I never suggested I have a problem with anyone voicing their opinion one way or the other there. Read the full comment before you decide whether you agree with it or not...
35, without disrespect to you, I'm pretty sure we can all judge op's relationship however we want or give any type of advice. No one said she had to take that advice. If OP didn't want the advice she probably shouldn't post it on a public website with a comment section. And if OP wanted "comfort and consolation" they probably shouldn't post it on this website, although in my opinion a lot of commenters do exactly that. I'd be willing to bet that OP was happy their story got posted on the website/app and thoroughly enjoyed everyone's comments even if they don't agree with all of them, as countless other posters before her have said. There's no reason for you to get pissed off just cause people are posting stupid comments. If so you might as well get pissed off at all the "well that's shitty" comments. Then you'd just be mad all the time. ;)
#35. Okay I understand your point. But I personally would not want my boyfriend sleeping with another girl, no excuses. If he wants to comfort her then go right ahead but I would draw a fine line at where the sexual relations start. He is her girlfriend after all, hers, not anyone else's. Which means he is exclusive to her and no one else.
You heartless bastard!! Why wouldn't you let your drunk ex bone a fat chic?!?!? They need love too!! So mean...
Sorry to hear your boyfriend openly wants to cheat on you. maybe you should soberly get a new boyfriend!
Wanting to do something and actually doing it are two very different animals, which makes the difference very significant. If I said I was mad enough to kill, does that make me a killer? No, of course not. Killing makes me a killer. Am I unfaithful if I drunkenly tell my GF I wan't to bang this 'gross fat chick' because I feel bad for her? No, of course not, it just makes me a drunken idiot. We don't know if he actually did have sex with 'Gross Fat Chick', so lets not send the man to Hell unfairly.
tell him he can have sex with "gross fat chicks" any time he likes because he ain't having sex with you anymore.
I don't know why everyone is saying to dump him. We didn't know if he cheated or not. He had the decency to ask his girlfriend first and who knows, after that call he could've said "no" to the fat chick. In all honesty, he is a lot better than the guys who cheat and lie about it.
dude the fact that he wanted to enough to ask and was considering it more than enough to dump him. you can bet your ass i would. the very fact that he asked completely fucks with the security of the relationship imo, unless they already talked about it or are in an open relationship. evidently they are not.
At least you don't have a hangover and a gross fat chick in your bed.