By Mandi - 28/08/2012 00:09 - United States - Cary
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I feel the sudden urge to make a reference to the amazing song that is "99 problems".
Well this just sucks no matter which way you approach it: 1) go talk to the wife which will cause problems & you'll probably lose your job (2) Lose your job because you refuse to be caught in a childish marital game!!! Call me crazy, but there's got to be some kind of law/policy to prevent
Dangit! My phone crashed and I couldn't edit my comment in time... I meant to say: "Call me crazy, but there's got to be some kind of law/policy to prevent this moral dilemma from messing with your career/ way to help you out." I know life isn't fair, but this just seems ridiculous to me that someone is prevented from a raise/position change because a crazy wife's assumptions. And to make matters worse, the Manager admitted this to OP!
I agree. By the way it sounds the company you work for should have an hr department or you should be able to contact his boss and explain the dilemma with them. It may be inappropriate for you to speak with your "boss" about it but if the other parties involved think you are qualified and that this is a problem then he may have little choice and his wife will just have to accept that. If the company she works at has to hire a different, inexperienced person for the job it could cost them a lot of money and most jobs won't see a personal life as a reason as to spend the extra $$.
20, your comment is useless here, the point of this FML is that there are unfair circumstances involving this person's life in a monetary and social way, there should be an hr department because of this, so the manager could pacify his wife, saying there shouldn't be any more laws is ridiculous, since this scenario covers an issue where a new person would come in to full the then vacant lower position. Promoting within a company is healthy for that company.
Actually, seems like there must be some way for her to work it out with her boss. If he's honest enough to give her the real reason then it seems they have a decent enough trust with one another that they could put their heads together & figure something out rather than just go straight over his head & cause the guy grief from both ends.
That's really unfair to you, OP. Talk to your boss and try to let him see that this promotion can be life-changing for you and that he should resolve his wife's trust issues and give you what you rightfully deserve. Good luck, OP.