By TheThirdWheel - 04/06/2013 19:11 - United States - Grand Rapids
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Noah, you said "friends. " That makes you the spare tire that they keep locked up in the trunk! Have words with your boyfriend if you want anything to be done about this.
Did you plan and pay for the trip? Because if you did, you should be able to make the decision of them not coming.
76, although a lot of people can't afford a plane ticket some can just buy one at the spur of the moment. Also, we don't know how long left until the trip and we don't know how long they've been in on the trip. The boyfriend might just have been hiding it from her. Never know.
#76 Loads, for instance they could've rented a cabin. I feel for you OP, my boyfriend has also invited his friends to our vacation for the last couple of years, and they don't pay accomodations, only the food they eat (luckily it's not the only trip we make a year; but it makes him happy so I learned to be okay with it). Talk to him about it, OP, maybe they can stay for half the trip and you can still do the most romantic things you put on the list? I hope it works out!
45- maybe it's different in Michigan but I've never heard of anyone taking a year to plan a camping trip. I'd think if you need to plan it for a whole year it's because it's something big and/or expensive, like a trip to Australia or a bunch of places in Europe or something. But then I don't understand how the boyfriend just invited his friends along to something like that...
If you never specifically say something, you can't expect people to know. I feel like OP would have said something along the lines of "he knew this was a romantic getaway for us" but she didn't. So I can safely assume that no one has specifically said hey this is a romantic getaway for two.
Oh wow. I don't know what to suggest that isn't a bad idea. Maybe bring a friend of yours if I'm assuming right you're going to be the only female on this trip. And when the trip is over have a serious talk with him. That isn't fair that happened after a year of planning went into it.
I think the serious talk should come before the trip. And I really don't see how fighting fire with fire is going to help him understand why what he is doing is inappropriate and rude. If he can't be made to understand that, and agree not to bring his friends along, then it may be better to cancel the trip altogether.
I don't think it's a case of fighting fire with fire if she brings a friend. She would need some company of her own but I only feel that because she's posted "his friends" and it leads me to believe they're not mutual friends. Could be though, we don't know. I think, depending on when the trip is and also if it's too late to back out of it, OP should confront her boyfriend in a tactical way because we don't know how he'll react. He may react in such a bad way that the whole trip is ruined.