No, THIS is what is wrong for America. Everyone believing you need to follow every tradition set in place exactly as everyone thinks it should be. Get married then have kids, never the reverse. Marriage is just as susceptible to problems as is being boyfriend and girlfriend. Maybe they're completely happy being just "bf/gf." Is it really going to kill you if a couple doesn't get married? Please retrieve the wedding rings from your asses because even if you DO get married I don't believe that is where they belong.

Better get married before he deploys or you and your baby have no protection if God forbid something happens to him. You're better off to be a surviving spouse, as girlfriend with illegitimate baby means Nothing to the military. Sorry, not trying to be mean, just SMART. I was an Army brat and saw alot of situations.

srry miss

That is awful timing! :( Well you will have the kid you wanted and then in the future it will have its father...

That sucks D: My uncle's in Afganistan too and he missed my birthday today, so I feel for you. On a positive note, you're pregnant, congratz OP :]

Congratulations on your WANTED pregnancy. Keyword there, "wanted". You stated that you were "dying" to have kids. If you didn't want to have any while he was deployed I'm pretty sure she knew how to protect against it. This coming from an Army wife who has two children, one of who was planned for during deployment and is now 8 months old. My husband was gone THE WHOLE pregnancy. He's still gone, and won't be back til after our child is one. I don't consider it a FML though. It's our life, and we are very blessed for it. As for the not being married thing, to each his/her own. I agree with not rushing into marriage just for a child.. but.. when he comes home and you two are still "in love" then by all means get hitched and enjoy the marriage bliss and many joys of the military life.. lol. There are plenty of support groups for you.. even if you're just a girlfriend. Just keep your legs closed and try not to be a tag chaser while your boyfriend is defending our country.

that's heartbreaking!!!

OP, you are a dumbass for not getting married before you got pregnant. And, when your relationship blows up, and it will, you will be just another single mother lying about not needing a daddy for her little bastard while trying to find someone to be a daddy. Of course, that is assuming he doesn't get custody.

That sucks, but congratulations.

My wife has lived the same thing several times. just keep telling her you love her and wishing you were there. good luck and have a blessed trip.

at least you will have a kid together, (I assume) she has her family for support and you can tape the birth...

stop being greedy he's going to protect this country and your mad.......